PsychDom
06-20-2010, 01:14 AM
46 year old dominant male seeking a submissive female under 30
To me, when a girl says she wants to be controlled, that means what she really wants is just the opposite: * complete freedom.* What I mean is that, I think that a girl has many feelings, fantasies, desires, imaginations that she would like to act on, but due to a number of reasons (religion, parental upbringing, peer pressure, societal norms, guilt, etc), she cannot act on these things alone.* However, if she gives control* to another, then SHE is no longer responsible for her actions, but rather the DOM is responsible. So the control is a psychological mechanism to be FREE to move towards her true, innate, and natural desires.*
That being said, sure, someone can have true desires to just submit to someone as act all to itself for pleasure, but I argue it is always deeper.
If it is the freedom you seek then, I will set you free. *
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Kinks:Some limited BDSM, primary fetish = sharing sub/slave/gf with others. Seeking preferable bi-sub, openminded, trainable.
Experience:Massive life experience, various interests.
Limits:No smokers, no party girls, no drug users, no flakes.
To me, when a girl says she wants to be controlled, that means what she really wants is just the opposite: * complete freedom.* What I mean is that, I think that a girl has many feelings, fantasies, desires, imaginations that she would like to act on, but due to a number of reasons (religion, parental upbringing, peer pressure, societal norms, guilt, etc), she cannot act on these things alone.* However, if she gives control* to another, then SHE is no longer responsible for her actions, but rather the DOM is responsible. So the control is a psychological mechanism to be FREE to move towards her true, innate, and natural desires.*
That being said, sure, someone can have true desires to just submit to someone as act all to itself for pleasure, but I argue it is always deeper.
If it is the freedom you seek then, I will set you free. *
*
Kinks:Some limited BDSM, primary fetish = sharing sub/slave/gf with others. Seeking preferable bi-sub, openminded, trainable.
Experience:Massive life experience, various interests.
Limits:No smokers, no party girls, no drug users, no flakes.