Fire loss... Love lost?

[thedon]

You know the situation, you've heard it a million times, man not sexually satisfied by his amazingly hot wife who just doesn't seem interested even when the couple in question is supposed to be trying for a second baby.

The question is when the wife seems totally put off by any forthcoming suggestions of sex and has pigeonholed the relationship into a sex opportunity window of the bed just before you sleep what the fuck do you do?!

Especially when you hate regime! I am this man and it's killing me inside. Ideas??!!

Don't say leave her, not gonna happen but I need something!!!

[womble]

I really feel for you, I'm in the same situation and I can't find a way out.
I think a lot off people end up with similar relationship sex problems.

[thedon]

I really feel for you, I'm in the same situation and I can't find a way out.
I think a lot off people end up with similar relationship sex problems.

Yep almost all of my married male friends suffer too, but the issue is what can be done??!! I'm considering a no sex stint to see how she reacts, but that's not going to help with the fact we want another child is it!

I find the whole thing selfish in the fact that it's always down to me to be the driving force but many knock backs just kill your confidence...

[tempered_sugar]

I find the whole thing selfish in the fact that it's always down to me to be the driving force but many knock backs just kill your confidence...

Ever thought you might be being selfish by expecting there to be sex when you're in the mood? Sometimes women (and guys) really do not feel like sex for hundreds of reasons. If you are trying for a second baby she could be anxious, be putting pressure on herself, be having body image issues etc etc.

Now I do understand that you feel left out but have you thought about sitting down and just talking to her? Not a confrontation but just expressing that you are concerned that she doesn't seem interested in you sexually at the moment. She might need you to take it slow and make it romantic, not just pounce on her and hope for the best (everyone does that sometimes!).

I can't help but take the womans side slightly in this but I really do think guys miss the little signs and hints that a woman isn't happy and needs some help and support. Women sometimes want the guy to ask whats up rather than bring the subject up themselves especially if it is over a touchy subject :)