How Far Into The Lifestyle Are You?

[Dementyia]

In reality, most people who say they are "into" BDSM in any of it's forms aren't into the lifestyle, but are instead into BDSM play, where a part of their life, a part of their day or week is BDSM.

Those who are truly into the lifestyle live it, day in and day out. It is as constant as the need to eat or sleep, and an integral part of their existence.

It all depends on what aspect(s) of the lifestyle one practices, how deep the rabbit hole goes, as it were, in any individual's life.

We are all different, and those differences are what make the BDSM community the varied and beautiful thing that it is.

So my question is, how far down the rabbit hole are you? Do you live the lifestyle as a natural part of your daily life, or is BDSM a little spice that you add to your daily, weekly, or monthly routine of otherwise outwardly pretending to be vanilla?

[Strawberry]

Im on a long distance relation ship. But other than that, I'm far into the hole.. Day in and day out I dream of nothing but being his, and serving him forever. I see it as more important than friends, school, work and all that. It's a huge part of who I am.

[Chloe]

Right now I'm as deep in the hole as I've ever been. If I look only into my rules from the moment I get up from bed in the morning up until I go to sleep at night lots of what I do is related in some way to my submission. This is something I progressed into with time because it was just last year after having experimenting different things both in RL & online I found out that was the way I needed it to be. But the reason why I want it to be as much a big part of my life as possible is not really so I can say that I'm "truly into the lifestyle" or a "true sub/slave". It's rather about having a feeling of security about it You could say that the rules & rituals that I do every day are kind of the outline of my submission. I need to have them so all the rest of what I do whether it is tasks or orders from my Master have a bigger meaning. The fact that I want to have things included into my daily life such as having my clothes chosen for me when I go to work or having to sleep bound is because it sort of permanently reminds me about my submission as well as it?s also a sign of my commitment as a slave.

[odineu]

I am not even really starting out but the "fetish" and "thought" of it is starting to really grow on me.
I haven't experienced it yet but from what I think... it will be a way too... just completely submit for once, which I have never done.
I am very curious to start with it, only certain things... but being bound and not being able to help my situation would probably help me out in many ways, even my personality.

So yes, I have no clue about BDSM or S&M... but I am staring at the entrance and damn does it seem tempting!:p

[aika]

Not very far. Me and my girlfriend tie each other up, and that's about as far as it goes really. Most of the kink is fantasy to me, I don't think that living a complete BDSM "lifestyle" is for me.

[TensionRoom101]

I am part of the team that runs Tension fetish club in Newcastle. I am also part of the team that runs The Dungeon Club in Dudley (west midlands) and the new post BBB club Unleashed (Birmingham).

I occasionally help Pamela's Playroom in the manufacture of floggers and BDSM furniture, and man the stall at the BBB.

I attend Violate (Glasgow) and Scarlet (Birmingham) as often as I can.

I have girls around to play at mine at least once a week, sometimes more.

That's quite involved.


Mike

[stephpoet]

I'm in pretty deep. My Master is moving in this week and will be controlling pretty much everything, more so than he has been. Not to mention I have a few subs and doms in my life, and the Munches.

[boundperil]

Mine is an online relationship. I do not control her everyday events, but sexually she is mine to play with. We play everyday, I know she can't go long with out me, as I her. But there is more to it then just the sexually end of things, I help her in her day to day life with problems she is going through.

[marth]

I'm just watching the rabbits having so much fun in holes... from afar.

I've had a few online relationships, but as a dom it can get pretty onesided easily. I'm looking to explore more though

[BeenThereDoneThat]

I'm definately more of occasional visitor than a resident of the BDSM lifestyle. For me, it's more of a kink that sometimes appeals to me more than other times -- it kind of depends on my mood that day.

[willyable]

I haven't gotten to the point where I live it day in and day out but I do it at least once a night. I practice it once just not througout the whole entire day. I think eventually I will get there just not there yet.

[deeperblue]

Since I'm actively visiting fetish and play partys and attend on group meetings I'm pretty much involved in the 'Lifestyle'.

[devilsown]

I guess I am one of those who would fall into the description of BDSM play for now. I have had a keen interest in it for many years, but never met someone who I could actually experience it with in real time. Perhaps that will change.

[Master_ofpain]

i am, into a whole mess of bdsm lifestyle, i dont go to any clubs or anything but other then work, my life has contact with bdsm every day.

[Dementyia]

Tat's very revealing, and I find it pleasant to know that there are so many levels of involvement in the lifestyle here. Thanks everyone for sharing. *smile*

[Saxon]

I personally have been activly engaging in "the lifestyle" since March,investigating and slowly getting involved. Now in December I have a loving girlfriend who loves my kinks as much as I do, as well as a small, yet solid amount of BDSM and fetish kit. We play when the mood takes us, neither fully interested in 24/7 roleplay, and thats enough for us. That does not mean, however, we ain't interested in getting kinkier, by all means bring it, but slow and steady is good for us.

[slaveslut]

i used to be down the rabbit a good bit . for about a year . for the first few weeks of the relationship it was very vanilla and then she let me in on the fact that she was looking for a slave . up until that point i had no experience of anything but vanilla sex but over the space of a month or so it was what i came to need . she was a cruel mistress and tought me alot . for a few months i lived with her in a 24/7 full control relationship . it is because of her that i have a huge rubber and bdsm fetish but unfortunatly she left me and moved away i have no contact with her any more . i am currently looking for a life stile mistress

[always.]

I have a slave; but it's long distance so we cant take it much farther at this point.. I wouldn't go out looking for a new slave in my area so that I can take it farther in my lifestyle, I am quite happy with my slave & content on waiting until things may fall into place for us; Even though it is only over the internet, We've been talking for 3 years.. he knows things about me that no one else does & I consider him a very important part of my life.

[cfnm_patient]

I think this can mean different things depending on who you are.

Right now I can't say I'm in it 24/7 as I've no sub or switch partner. But I've been there and done that. I also can't get the want for another D/s relationship out of my mind either.

[Ivan]

Actually, I have never even thought of how to define how far gone I may be. This is probably because I do not like to categorize things.

[Master_Emanon]

I am very deep in the lifestyle, I have been raised in the lifestyle since leaving home at ten years old, and have been training in it since then, and attained the title of Master after 5 years (age 15) of training with 4 Masters and 2 Mistresses in hundreds of kinks, and gaining vast knowledge in many kinks.

Every aspect of my life, in some way I come to contact with the lifestyle, though in my immediate area I know only a few people who are in the lifestyle, I have two slaves, one currently is away at college so I see her once a month when she comes to back to new york (sometimes less depending on her school schedule) and the other I see every few days.

Am currently saving for a house in upstate NY maybe even another state to move all of us in one poly household (.N.Y.C. is quite expensive)

I personally do not belong to any groups or clubs for several reasons, one being none in my immediate area, and the few I know of downtown all of the master and mistresses are 40+ so I do not really fit in the crowd.

[bubble]

I am total newbie, and that is one of the reasons I became a memeber here. I am looking to explore further with a view to spicing things up with my partner.

I cannot honestly see myself devoting 24/7 to the lifestyle ( a bit difficult with kids and work ). But I can see how it can almost become addictive.

[Slave2008]

i am in a "as much as possible" 24/7 relationship with Mistress.

i was the one that intoduced HER to the world of BDSM/Slavery....yada yada, but she took to it like a fish to water, she really surprises me with her creativity and openess to such a new activity.

It is a 24/7 in that she keeps me naked (only wearing collar and ankle/wrist restraints. i do almost all the house chores around here for HER. We dont have kids living with us, so its much easier for us to play and be 24/7.

i dont call HER Mistress 24/7 we have our moments of down time where we converse as a normal couple would.

SHE decides when/if/how we will have sex (sometimes its just HER that has fun)then i have to go to bed horny! i am big into Teasing/Denial

i say it everyday, i LOVE my new life

[Sour Candy]

i'm not as into the lifestyle as i wish i could be. due to extenuating circumstances, i had to separate from my girl, and come with my guy to texas, with our daughter. we're sharing a big house with his two brothers and one cousin, so we can't really do all the things i'd like.

besides, i've got a thing for pain, and he doesn't have the right mind to hurt me. he doesn't really understand that i enjoy it, if it's done right. my wish is to find a Master for the both of us, but i don't know yet if he'd go for training. a Master who could train us both to be slaves and Masters ourselves. my girl is strictly sub, as far as i've figured thus far, and i've known her for maybe four years. if i could find a good Master who could break me down and build me up again, i'd love to surprise her with my new knowledge.

i want this to be an everyday thing, or at least a "whenever we can," kind of thing. i adore all kinds of diverse "perverse" things, but being my age, and with people my age, no one seems to know much of anything...

anyway, in answer to the question, in my mind... i'm in pretty deep. but it's not reflected physically, to my regret.

[His_Einna]

I'm a complete 24/7 slave and always have been. I can look back at my behaviour right into my early child-hood and see the desperate desire to please, as far back as I can remember, and I have actually have great periods of my life where I've sunk into depression and anxiety because I've had no one to serve. I physically cannot have a happy and healthy existence without a good Dominant.

So basically, if I'm the rabbit, I'm bed-bound deep in the earth unable and unwilling to leave my cosy little haven.