Do most men find it sexy when a woman asks to be spanked?

[Pandora]

While I do not like a lot of pain, I do really like a spanking every once in a while. I feel a bit funny asking for one though, but think that I would feel better if I knew that it was a definite turn on.

[ExerciseSlave]

Hell yeah!

I think that its a common theme for men to find it a turn on for a woman to ask for things like that. Most women seem repressed in their sexuality, so its refreshing to find a woman who is willing to ask for what she wants!

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[nursemom]

In my opinion most think it's great. If you are worried about your partner not approving of what you want, what are you doing with him? Think of it as a litmus test.

[Simplyme]

I have to agree that most do find it a turn on for sure. Like was previously stated to have a woman, especially one who is sometimes reserved, ask for a good spank every now and again is not something your man will find anything other than hot.

[algernon]

It would definitely be a turn on for me, but the opperative word here is 'ask' He should feel like it's something that he decided to give when he feels like, or it sorta defeats the whole power rush idea. If you make him feel like he has to spank you when you want it or he's only allowed to do it rarely with permission, he would probably rather not do it at all.

Anyway, that's just my opinion. I can't comment on guys in general.

[Chloe]

algernon, you took words off my keyboard, lol I very much agree with that. Being a sub myself I do not want to ask for a spanking as much as I like them. It would make me feel as I'm the one who's controling him or at least the situation & just that would be enough for me to be turned off... :(

Still same as algernon said, I don't know about guys in general but in the context of a D/s relationship for me it would be going in the total opposite direction from what I want.

[Pandora]

Thank you all for being so candid.

nursemom, I totally get where you are coming from. It is probably more in my mind than anything else. I am not sure why I am shy about the whole thing... it isn't like he is a mind reader and if I do not say anything how will he know?

algernon, thank you for putting it so clearly. This is exactly what I want. I just want him to know that I do want to be spanked... well, for starters... ;)

[Beatrice]

I tried spanking my boyfriend once, during sex. It was unexpected for the bot of us, and a bit unsual also, as it was the first time. This is why, after the short spanking, we both stopped for a few seconds and started laughing.:D It was quite fun.

[jamiebhoy08]

for me thats a huge turn on! especially if she is the one that asks and not u

[devilsown]

Spanking is either something that people like or they don't. I find it an erotic, and am always looking for something to spice up the ole sex life.

[Sorrow Becomes Her]

I can't speak for guys, but I know for me I'm nearly begging to cum everytime I get spanked. I love it. I can't really say why either, it hurts like hell.

I think because I know at the end of it, provided I was a good enough angel for him, I know the manner in which he rewards... and the whole time I'm getting spanked, I'm thinking to myself, mentally begging him to fuck me... and occasionally I do beg him. I think he likes it when I do that.

The most recent guy I've been with.. is really the epitome of vanilla. He isn't really dominating during sex. I have had to literally beg him to spank me... but not in the good way. Not like the man I spoke of previous, whom I begged for him to fuck me. (When I go close to an orgasm, he would begin spanking me during. I've never felt just a harder orgasm.. He said my muscles tightened up so much around his cock it was all he could do not to cum himself. ^_^ My Sir, as I called him, needed to spank a woman. He would become so turned on by the sight and sounds of a woman begging him to fuck her, or to spank harder so she could cum, that in time, it became what he needed as well.
Hope that helped you as little. Also, definitely talk with him before you get into the sexy mood. Set the guidelines beforehand, maybe over a drink, or something. Just to know where you both stand as far as what you're looking for in sex.

[aika]

I wish my girlfriend would ask to be spanked. But alas she doesn't ever ask for anything. She just expects me to take control and decide what to do, and never tells me what she enjoys or doens't enjoy.

[Hampers]

I think you're asking on the wrong website if you're trying to find people who don't enjoy partaking in the acquisition and distribution of spankings.

[aika]

Truth.

In the movie Secretary, Lee's boyfriend gets very confused when she asks him to spank her.

[tempered_sugar]

Spanky, spanking, spank, spank, spank!!!

Hehe I personally love spanking, recieving and giving. Everything about it is sexy! But I'm not a guy so I couldn't say if every guy loves ibe asked to give it though but in my experiance most are willing to give it a go.

[Merlin]

As others said there is no yes or no and the easiest way is to ask what he thinks of it ...

For a man not so much into the dominant part the question is more if he finds it OK to spank you... but judging from what i see a lot men are into light spanking... still only way to find out is ask him. In general if he is into spanking I don't think he will mind to be asked...

For a Dom there is first the same question (yes not all like spanking!) but there is also another aspect to consider. If you ask him to do something in some way you take part of the control from him.
Some will tolerate it because they don't see it as a big thing. Some others may only tolerate it if you beg for it as that way he feels still in control as he can deny it (for some it is even a big turn on).
But others will see it, as Chlo?, as telling him what to do and will react bad about it.
Also here the only way to find out is to ask him!...
...especially as most will even be somewhere between all this


I for example certainly would not accept an order like question to spank someone ("Spank me!").
A neutral one ("would you spank me now?") would confuse me to be honest... i would not react negative but in 99% of the times with no spanking.
Begging is a hard part it can be interesting to see someone "begging with the body" but saying it can be irritating too (at least often)...
Yeah men are also complicated :p

[Blade]

I just told my girlfriend that the thought of her spanking me turned me on. That was all it took. She was then able to approach it on her time. It worked and we both enjoy it now. :)

I wish my girlfriend would ask to be spanked. But alas she doesn't ever ask for anything. She just expects me to take control and decide what to do, and never tells me what she enjoys or doens't enjoy.
You should work on communication. Imagine being able to talk openly about your inner desires, thoughts, and fetishes. I never thought it was possible but it is and it is one of the coolest things you can develop in a relationship.

[HornyAndLooking]

I remember the first time my ex asked me to spank her. I nearly came right then and there. Up to that point I thought she was too straight-laced for anything like that. But it opened up a lot more interesting things in our sex life.

[cfnm_patient]

Yes, I love to give OTK(over the knee) spankings to a woman.

[Ghost]

Ummm not really
looks silly and can be embarrassing

[Jackocloud]

I tried spanking my boyfriend once, during sex. It was unexpected for the bot of us, and a bit unsual also, as it was the first time. This is why, after the short spanking, we both stopped for a few seconds and started laughing.:D It was quite fun.

I sure hope you said "take it bitch" If you didnt it was wasted, like completly

[G spot essence]

In my experience, for many reasons, but since i am dominant most of the time...spanking comes with the territory.

Find out what makes him WANT to spank you and do it.

Usually, be a real BRAT, but be flirty with it. Pester him until he tells you to leave him alone, then ask "why, whatcha gonna do about it?" and stick your ass out.

If he hits it.......tease him. "Aww c'mon you can do better than that."

That always get them in trouble with me!

[Coyote]

that is one of the biggest turnons for me. I absolutely love it when a woman asks that

[jack]

I would find it sexy if a women, whom I was intimate with, asked me to spank her. Why wouldn't I?

Hope this helps.

[PaddleFan]

Yes, I think it's a huge turn-on for a woman to ask to be spanked.

The first time it may be a bit of surprise and should probably include talking about ground rules and a safe word. But definately a turn on.

[sarratt69]

Undoubtedly!!

I would agree with other respondents that this is a communication issue. People need to agree this sort of thing with their partners long before the opportunity presents itself. For some reason some people have a real problem in letting their partners know what their likes and dislikes are. For consenting adults there is nothing at all wrong in sharing these, in fact, for a guy it is incredibly stimulating to have a woman who is prepared to 'fess up' on these things!!

[John Masters]

I'd happily play the dominant for a while just for the chance to spank a woman. And if she asks to be spanked so much the better.

[Leopard]

It is most definitely a turn on - and for most other men, too, assuming they aren't extremely submissive, I should think.

[archie21]

I've never known a woman who didn't like to be spanked but it's the ferocity of the spanking that varies. My lady likes to be spanked but only till she's reddened, an ex absolutely got off on the application of a hair brush used until she couldn't sit down. I have always encouraged open discussion of fantasies and spanking often comes out quite early.

[John Masters]

I love to spank and be spanked but my wife is so not into it. Her cooking is good though.

[New and Shy]

My personal opinion is that it is a huge turn-on whenever a woman asks for anything. Anytime a woman knows what she wants and it pleases her so much that she will ask for it, I am more than happy to accommodate her. Whatever it is, I will be turned on just by knowing that I'm turning her on.

While I do not like a lot of pain, I do really like a spanking every once in a while. I feel a bit funny asking for one though, but think that I would feel better if I knew that it was a definite turn on.

[Euthanathos]

strangely i can't remember a single occasion in which a girl asked me to spank her, i had always took the initiative, lightly at first of course and going harder or stopping depending on the reactions.
Anyway i guess that having a gf asking me to spank her would be a nice turn on, and it would be a nicer one making her beg for that.

[deadly]

I think it'd be great but i've never experienced such a request myself....i also would like to be on the receiving end of a spanking if i'm honest

[NeonInk]

Wow... are you.... wow...
Gender doesn't define who wants to spank who.
This should have said "Do most Dominants enjoy spanking a submissive?"
Most men, NO!
Because half of the men are submissives who do not like giving punishments.

[single223]

yes definently u could even ask a complete stranger at a bar about around 98% chance it will work

[nottsdom]

My personal opinion is that it is a huge turn-on whenever a woman asks for anything. Anytime a woman knows what she wants and it pleases her so much that she will ask for it, I am more than happy to accommodate her. Whatever it is, I will be turned on just by knowing that I'm turning her on.

as above, theres nothing hotter than a woman confident with sex and letting herself go and enjoy it

but it would be great if a woman did ask me rather than making me feel like a weirdo when i brooch the subject

[shavedrachel]

I'm quite a tease myself, and often tease others before sometimes letting them get there reward lol

I love the way males just get so desperate when you tease them with certain sayings like

come see what I have under this outfit

What you gunna do about it (after winding them up)

Etc etc

[darelicious]

I just love women who tease.. even if it goes nowhere.. anytime, darling, anywhere..

[archie21]

I'm quite a tease myself, and often tease others before sometimes letting them get there reward lol

I love the way males just get so desperate when you tease them with certain sayings like

come see what I have under this outfit

What you gunna do about it (after winding them up)

Etc etc
You tease me all the time on line... and i love it

[shavedrachel]

You tease me all the time on line... and i love it

Thank You
Glad that you like it lol

[Leopard]

Thank You
Glad that you like it lol

Where are my teases, Rachie? ;)

[Wanders61]

I don't know if I'd call it sexy but surely erotic.

[shavedrachel]

Where are my teases, Rachie? ;)


Do you really want then Leo - lol

[Leopard]

Do you really want then Leo - lol

I do, I do, I do ♥

(takes up valuable public thread space on personal flirting.)

[Roni]

Not me, ok well a little I admit. But if she asks me if I want to get spanked thats really hot!

[conorhickey619]

i'd love if my girlfriend asked me to spank her it would be a definate turn on

[masterofall]

ofcourse it wud really turn me on