Is flirting a form of cheating?

[yvonnewilcox]

Some people consider flirting cheating. What are you thoughts? If you say that is cheating then please explain why you feel this way.

[Momof2]

No I don't think so I think it's a confidence builder there is no harm in flirting you are not actually getting up to anything.

[jb2005522]

flirting is only cheating if their's sexual contact

[kero]

some see as talking flirting a few girls have thalt i was flirting when i was just talking but the reson why some see flirting as cheating is becuse what it can lead too not what it is at that time

i just see it as talking most the times it just depands how somone is some will touch you a lot beacuse thats how thay are so longs it is nothing out of what there normaly like with friends i find that ok

[Hampers]

One of my exes used to get jealous when I talked to anyone else the same way I talked to her. Not in a dirty way, just in a strange way. She was a strange cookie.
On the other hand, I don't see flirting as a problem. As long as you don't act on it, I don't think of it as cheating.

[KinkyKev87]

i dont go around flirting with everyone, but i also dont consider it cheating

[applebooty]

As long as you don't do anything sexual with other people outside your relationship, I don't see how it's cheating.

[Chloe]

I had not voted on the poll because I was not 100% sure... voted no even though I'm still a little bit undecided... :D

I guess it would depend what is meant by "flirting"... I'm going pretty much with Hampers that if the person who flirts doesn't act on it then it isn't cheating. Rude (esp. if done right in front of your partner) perhaps but not cheating...

It reminds me of one of my exes... :D He had this nasty habit of telling in quite graphic details to other girls what he'd do to them if they got in bed together etc. I was utterly disgusted with his attitude then. Not because I felt cheated but I found he had to seriously lack any self-respect to act like this... But still hmm... maybe I find this kind of behaviour odd because I never felt the need to test my charms so to speak while being in a relationship... :)

[applebooty]

It reminds me of one of my exes... :D He had this nasty habit of telling in quite graphic details to other girls what he'd do to them if they got in bed together etc. I was utterly disgusted with his attitude then. Not because I felt cheated but I found he had to seriously lack any self-respect to act like this... But still hmm... maybe I find this kind of behaviour odd because I never felt the need to test my charms so to speak while being in a relationship... :)

Wow. Not even in a joking way, just blatantly sexual and disrespectful like that? Anyway, I thought you'd said "it reminds me of one of my eyes."

[Dementyia]

Flirting is definitely not cheating. Taking a wink, nudge, or sly comment to the next level and getting romantically or physically involved on te other hand, is.

[knick]

I don't think flirting is cheating. Only if you are flirting with intent to cheat is there a problem.
Just my take on it

[yvonnewilcox]

I don't think flirting is cheating. Only if you are flirting with intent to cheat is there a problem.
Just my take on it


But is there a way to flirt without letting it go overboard?

[knick]

Of course there is! Firstly flirtations without intent should be initiated in a controlled environment. This would be very public/party situations where you can remain in control. Secondly, you choose the person with whom you flirt so you can be a judge of where it could possibly lead. If you flirt in a situation that you cannot remain in control of it may either be considered dangerous or that there is a level of intent to slip beyond the innocent.
Flirtatious behaviour in the right situation is a win win thing because it should make two people feel good within themselves (maybe a bit frustrated but good eh!)

[Babyface]

It depends on how excessively you are flirting.

[knick]

It depends on how excessively you are flirting.

I guess if your flirting is excessive then there is a level of intent to cheat anyway, by definition you are removing the level of control...

[rgjmce]

to a woman thinking about another girl is cheating cause then you are mentally replacing them

[masterlaw]

everyone has there own levels of cheating, one girl's opinion of flirting is compeltely different to anothers. I have a few good mates who are girls and some of my exes had a real problem with it, i have never cheated and never will.

She split with me cause of this, it was only oohh 10th date ish but she did not like the girls i was with. Fair enough she was honest and i respect her for that, we got on really well apart from that all well.

The other side of the coin is, on the whole it doesn`t really bother me if girls i`m datin or seein flirt. AS long, as they don`t try to hide it or anything and just have a laugh no harm in my opinon. It is a good confidence builder (as someone else state) i used to work in a nearly all girl environment and you have to give it back or you just get walked all over (so to speak).

[sokkos]

Both me and my girlfriend have agreed we are allowed to flirt. Mainly because we can't help ourselves and do it without meaning to. As long as it doesn't go too far

[adnamamag]

I have a really over the top personality, and I'm constantly semi-flirting (at the very least) with just about anyone I'm somewhat attracted to. And I can also be really inappropriate at times with what I say and do, so I think the important thing is for your partner to realize who you are and that you're committed to them, not the cutie in the corner.

[HelloToast]

I completely agree with everyone.
Flirting is often without noticing it, if you see someone you are attracted to, you automatically smile with them, joke around maybe.
When or if you were to start getting physical and such, then it would be cheating. i think anyways, everyone else has there own opinon, and people should make find out what there parteners limits are..

[Stitch]

I completely agree with what has been said already in this thread.

I think this goes hand in hand with a conversation I had earlier with a friend. Would feeling a desire for someone who's not your partner determine your level of devotion? I would think not. It is really hard for someone to want one person and one person only. Some may claim that their partners are 'trained' to do so, but no one apart from the person themselves would know.

Flirting makes people feel good about themselves. The only important thing is keeping in control of the situation, and knowing where you stand. Some casual flirting, and a few extra compliments is always nice.

[HaplessYouth]

IMO Flirting is not cheating but it isn't "not" cheating... Its somewhere in the grey area in the middle. I would never be happy to find out a girl I was seeing or was with was flirting with another guy.

That stuff doesn't fly with HY :D

[superfreak]

Depends on why you are flirting. It could just be natural. I do it by instinct even though have a girlfriend, I don't mean anything by it though. I like my girlfriend and I know she would not have an issue with it.

[Memories for Life]

As a Catholic priest once told me "Just because you're on a diet, there's no harm in looking at the menu!"

[GoogleMaster]

I think you can flirt and not cheat, but that you could flirt and be cheating. I sometimes flirt and it is just a little fun. That may not be cheating, but flirting with an emotional attachment may be emotional cheating.

[kurious]

You really have to define exactly what you feel a "flirt" is. If you flirting means that you are just laughing and joking with them, with the odd sexual inuedo that's certainly not cheating. If your form of flirting is getting extremely close and being as touchy as you can without scaring them off... well that's getting closer to cheating. So no, flirting is not cheating...but it can come close to a line that is best not to be crossed.

[Riley Taylor]

It depends upon the two people involved. You could ask, "If you have sex with another person, is it cheating?" In most cases, yes, but there are open relationships. I would say that by the same token, in a relationship in which neither person cares or is bothered by it, it's not cheating. In a relationship in which one or both partners is upset by it, it is cheating.

Personally, I unconsciously flirt to some degree, and I'm unaware of it and can't help it. I don't mean to, so I don't feel I can be accused of cheating. However, if I go beyond that and start joking about leaving the person I'm dating for them, even in jest, I would say that (at least in relationships where flirting is considered cheating) is over the line.

Basically, it depends. Maybe flirting isn't cheating no matter what for some people. For some, maybe even a little bit of flirting is cheating. For others (such as myself), it's probably somewhere in between.

Maybe this should be among the list of things couples talk about early on in the relationship. I don't know.

Also, this is my first post on here!

[Queen2U]

I voted Yes, but it all "depends". There are different levels of flirting and a multitude of different situations/people/dynamics involved.

Example 1: In public, my sub is very polite to everyone, especially women. At first, I misconstrued some of his actions as flirting. I didn't say anything and just did observation. After a full day of being with him in public, I concluded that it is just his nature to serve/respect ALL women as they should be. :)

Example 2: Ex-husband and I are at restaurant and he acts different from the norm (smiling really big at waitress, winking at her, calling her honey). And he finishes up with saying to me, "Boy, I'd like to bend her over" while giving her a huge tip. GASP!!! One of many reasons he is now my Ex.

Plus, what one defines as flirting, another person may not. So I think flirting, in general, is purely subjective and variable. Personally, I'm a bit selfish and possessive, but working on it. :)

~Queen2U