Is being legally married to your partner as important as having a trusting relationship?

[yvonnewilcox]

I know I have to really explain this thread. Some people feel that being married automatically guarantees that you and your mate suppose to trust each other. If you had to chose between getting married and just living together but have a trusting relationship, which would you choose?

[AlienMindsInc]

Marriage is good only for state benefits, in my book. All marriage is, is a simple promise to never cheat, and always be there for your mate.

Also, in the States (and most(?) other countries), there is this thing called a Marriage License that I am opposed to getting. It was invented as a way to allow otherwise illegal marriages, and was used in places, such as the American South, as a way to limit who had the right to marry. Currently, I believe they are required in all states. I am opposed to it because the simple idea of getting one implies that I'm not allowed to be with whomever I choose, and is an insult to everyone.

I will likely never get married, so the long answer is living together.

[ldybgsgma99]

I would definitely choose the trusting relationship. All marriage is is a piece of paper that satisfies the state you live in. It doesn't mean anything else. I would far rather have a trusting relationship than a piece of paper any day.

[yvonnewilcox]

I am married and have been married twice not to the same man of course but I believe in what you are saying. I have several friends that believe they are safe when it comes to sexually transmitted diseases because they are married. I disagree with the comfort zone because being married is not a guarantee clean bill of health. You might not cheat but who knows what your partner is doing.

[Simplyme]

A very trustworthy partner will always be more important to me than a piece of paper that shows I repeated some words. Like was said that piece of paper does not guarantee that you are in a "good - trusting" relationship.

[Momof2]

Trusting would be the main one for me, no point being married if you can't trust them.

[Dementyia]

I'm with everyone else here. I refuse to get married, because I don't beleive in paying money to get a piece of paper that costs thousands to get rid of just so I can get some tax benefits that I will never use.

Truly, the trusting, long term relationship rules