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yvonnewilcox
08-10-2008, 02:15 PM
What is you have a fantasy about anal sex but you have never experienced it but your mate wants no parts of that, would you find someone outside your relationship to try it with.
sweet10hearts
08-13-2008, 05:44 PM
I don't know if I would. I've been lucky enough to have partners that accept my needs, whims or whatever. I did have a lover (yes, he was married) who cheated because his wife wouldn't do anal. He really felt it should have been done within his marriage but she wasn't doing it. We didn't get around to it. He just was into a lot of ass play (and I loved licking his ass)... in the end he just didn't feel right about doing it. :confused: Strange and confusing cuz we did everything else--very enjoyable man.
yvonnewilcox
08-13-2008, 06:45 PM
I don't know if I would. I've been lucky enough to have partners that accept my needs, whims or whatever. I did have a lover (yes, he was married) who cheated because his wife wouldn't do anal. He really felt it should have been done within his marriage but she wasn't doing it. We didn't get around to it. He just was into a lot of ass play (and I loved licking his ass)... in the end he just didn't feel right about doing it. :confused: Strange and confusing cuz we did everything else--very enjoyable man.

:confused:That is strange that he would just start to feel guilty then just go cold turkey. Are you two still intimate?
TensionRoom101
08-19-2008, 06:48 AM
It depends on what boundaries you have, and what compromises.

Are there things your partner wants but you refuse? Certainly, if you're making all of the steps and he's taking none, then I think you can at least suggest that, if you don't get some anal soon you'll go mad. If you think it will have the right result, say that you are not prepared to spend the rest of your life without anal. However, don't make the explicit threat that if he doesn't you'll get someone else to- that as a threat seldom yeilds a positive outcome.

Has he said why he won't do it?


Mike
sweet10hearts
08-29-2008, 06:13 AM
:confused:That is strange that he would just start to feel guilty then just go cold turkey. Are you two still intimate?

No. I think he had a sex addiction and porn addiction. I am being honest.