Age gaps?

[His_Einna]

Just curious, as there's a significant gap between myself and my dominant. Anyone else in a serious age-gap relationship? Benefits? Problems?

[Anjelen]

The age gap between me and my three subs is, in declining order, 12, 11, and 6 years. I've never cared for someone's age as such - what i care for is someone's maturity. Yes, i am aware that i'm being highly arrogant, but i've spent quite a bit of my life on boarding schools where they simply let me basically do whatever the hell i wanted because they couldn't teach me anything- i was too smart. When the general IQ of 95% of the people around you is a good 30 points lower, you'll get what i mean ;)

And you'll get why i've made it a habit to judge people by maturity this way even in the consideration of wether i wanted to be talking to them - stupid people eventually give me shooting headaches and throttle urges.

So, yes. Age doesn't matter to me. 9, 49, 99 - (well, the first's a bit...:P but ya get my drift) - Once i've decided you're intelligent enough to hold a conversation you won't even _notice_ the fact i don't do emotion anymore :)

[His_Einna]

See, my Dom and I know what you mean; I was in the top three students when I left secondary school, and only stopped there because I had to become a full time carer (which boosted the maturity). I'm a very mature 20 year old mum because of that, and I totally know what you mean about putting maturity first. You could stand some of the girls I knew at 12 alongside some women I know in their 30's and...well, let's just say I know who I'd rather hold a convo with.

The problems I've encountered are minor at best...for instance, it takes my parents a little getting used to (he's 4 years older than my dad, 2 years older than my step-dad, 10 years older than my mum) and it squicks one or two of my friends a little at first. The advantages outweigh it...for instance, I don't think a guy my age can go for 2 or 3 hours solid on one orgasm ;-p

[Chloe]

The longest relationship I’ve been in was with a man who was eighteen years older than me. When I was younger, during my teenage years and early 20s mostly, I always found myself being more comfortable and interested with older men. I think that was more due to the fact that as a child I was always surrounded by adults so it felt more natural to me. I also left home relatively early at 17 to live in my own apartment and later on went to college in another city and had to work to earn a living, pay the bills, etc. so I could hardly relate to people my own age then.

During those years with that older guy the “problems”, related to age at least, were minors as well. In fact, I wouldn’t really call these problems. But I had to answer some questions that my friends who were in relationships with same-aged guys were curious about and stuff like that. And I had no problem answering those questions so I was cool with that.

And as I grew older I started giving less importance about age. I know I can talk with people who are older than me and may find them really immature in some ways and talk with an 18 year-old and find that I am on the same page as them. So as long as I can relate to someone else and have interesting conversations with them age differences doesn’t really matter much anymore :)

[Merlin]

[...]The advantages outweigh it...for instance, I don't think a guy my age can go for 2 or 3 hours solid on one orgasm ;-pHmm if you mean that someone older is more experienced than you are of course right and this can be a big advantage for sure... but i don't think your point is something that has to do with the age :p... at least not a lot :)