It seems this basic lesson needs to be taught for the benefit of all.
No limits (or will do anything), it doesn't matter if you are a sub who says you have "no limits" or a Dom who wants a "no limits" sub this isn't possible, EVERYONE has limits.
Stab yourself in the eye with a pencil, cut off your fingers while I watch, walk naked down your main street masturbating. I seriously doubt there is any member here who would do any of these or a Dom who would command them yet every day I see "no limits" in ads and posts.
Writing "no limits" is for the most part just another sign of laziness. Rather than take the time to spell out their actual likes and dislikes they simply throw in the catch all "no limits".
Here's a tip people, if you do take the time to list what you like and don't like you are much more likely to attract someone who shares those things in common.
If for instance you put "I like to see a sub humiliate themselves by pouring custard over their head." then the messy play fans will flock to you. Ok maybe thats a bit specific but you get the idea.
So please for fuck sake, stop writing "NO LIMITS"!
Instead try these kind of things;
1. Must do/will do photos including/not including face. (Very important to many, if not stated many will assume you don't care either way)
2. Impact play. (crops, paddles, spanking etc)
3. Bondage.
4. Clips, clamps etc
5. Public and/or semi-public
6. Controls (clothing, masturbation, orgasm etc)
7. Watersports, piss games
8. Scat
9. Blood play (cutting, needles etc)
10. Online exposure (temp exposed etc)
And so on, the list is almost endless but see what happened there, it took some time and effort to write out.
If you want to get some actual responses to your ads put some actual effort in to say what you really want.
Short, lazy ads are off putting for two reasons.
First if the person is this lazy trying to connect with you can fairly safely assume they will be lazy all round.
And second, this kind of short hand laziness also looks desperate. Its basically needy begging, in effect you're saying "I'm so desperate to find someone I don't care what you do just talk to me!"
So pick up your act people, put in the effort and you will be rewarded.
No limits (or will do anything), it doesn't matter if you are a sub who says you have "no limits" or a Dom who wants a "no limits" sub this isn't possible, EVERYONE has limits.
Stab yourself in the eye with a pencil, cut off your fingers while I watch, walk naked down your main street masturbating. I seriously doubt there is any member here who would do any of these or a Dom who would command them yet every day I see "no limits" in ads and posts.
Writing "no limits" is for the most part just another sign of laziness. Rather than take the time to spell out their actual likes and dislikes they simply throw in the catch all "no limits".
Here's a tip people, if you do take the time to list what you like and don't like you are much more likely to attract someone who shares those things in common.
If for instance you put "I like to see a sub humiliate themselves by pouring custard over their head." then the messy play fans will flock to you. Ok maybe thats a bit specific but you get the idea.
So please for fuck sake, stop writing "NO LIMITS"!
Instead try these kind of things;
1. Must do/will do photos including/not including face. (Very important to many, if not stated many will assume you don't care either way)
2. Impact play. (crops, paddles, spanking etc)
3. Bondage.
4. Clips, clamps etc
5. Public and/or semi-public
6. Controls (clothing, masturbation, orgasm etc)
7. Watersports, piss games
8. Scat
9. Blood play (cutting, needles etc)
10. Online exposure (temp exposed etc)
And so on, the list is almost endless but see what happened there, it took some time and effort to write out.
If you want to get some actual responses to your ads put some actual effort in to say what you really want.
Short, lazy ads are off putting for two reasons.
First if the person is this lazy trying to connect with you can fairly safely assume they will be lazy all round.
And second, this kind of short hand laziness also looks desperate. Its basically needy begging, in effect you're saying "I'm so desperate to find someone I don't care what you do just talk to me!"
So pick up your act people, put in the effort and you will be rewarded.
