ok. first off, I am completely new to this. and I am here because this is what my wife is into. I don't think I mind it, and it may even be fun. I just have no clue what to do and it makes it more frustrating than fun for either of us.
we have been married for about 7 years. she has always told me that she likes me to be in control, to tie her up and do what I want to, to her. she likes to be blind folded as well.
here is the thing. over 7 years, I never paid much attention to it. I guess i didn't realize how bad she wanted to do this or how much she liked it. I try every now and then but it just makes me feel stupid because I have no idea what I am doing. sure I can put on some hand cuffs or tie her to the bed (we have this thing that goes under the mattress that you can tie hands and feet to), I can put the blind fold on her... but that's were I start to get lost. again, she tells me she wants me to take control and make her do what I want.... problem is, what I actually want, is "boring" sex. so, I have to come up with something here. I really have no clue what to do.
PLEASE, any ideas of what to do that doesn't involve pain would be great. I will be looking around the site as much as i can also.
she isn't into the pain aspect. and that's what I find a lot of when I do a search. she sometimes forgets to use "Incognito" in the browser when she watches porn, so sometimes I can go watch what she watched to try and get an idea of what she likes. but it seems what she likes and what she can handle are not the same. so I can't go by that I don't think.
we have been married for about 7 years. she has always told me that she likes me to be in control, to tie her up and do what I want to, to her. she likes to be blind folded as well.
here is the thing. over 7 years, I never paid much attention to it. I guess i didn't realize how bad she wanted to do this or how much she liked it. I try every now and then but it just makes me feel stupid because I have no idea what I am doing. sure I can put on some hand cuffs or tie her to the bed (we have this thing that goes under the mattress that you can tie hands and feet to), I can put the blind fold on her... but that's were I start to get lost. again, she tells me she wants me to take control and make her do what I want.... problem is, what I actually want, is "boring" sex. so, I have to come up with something here. I really have no clue what to do.
PLEASE, any ideas of what to do that doesn't involve pain would be great. I will be looking around the site as much as i can also.
she isn't into the pain aspect. and that's what I find a lot of when I do a search. she sometimes forgets to use "Incognito" in the browser when she watches porn, so sometimes I can go watch what she watched to try and get an idea of what she likes. but it seems what she likes and what she can handle are not the same. so I can't go by that I don't think.