I; recently, as in yesterday discovered my deep need for TPE in a relationship arising from my desire to cultivate a more loving relationship with the object of my affection. There is a conflict within my core with this notion however as it relates S&M. The information I have read thus far has lead me to believe that S&M is an important part of a B/s relationship. I however; do not enjoy S&M.
(Please understand I do not wish to offend anyone with the following statements. This comes from my core and is my truth for me alone.)
I feel that it is beneath me to take such a course of action. I believe I am strong enough to rise above the need to inflict physical pain as a form of punishment. My question is: Is it possible to be Dom without the use of physical?
I also had an experience with posting an ad seeking a sub which would be patient and understanding with me while I am undertaking this journey of self discovery, I have been met with an inbox full of messages asking me to meet within the first message without even sending any basic details such as, what they are in, what experience they have in D/s relationships, they don't even list any desires, When I press them for desires they give me vague answers, even going so far as to ask them what it is that they need to feel, they do not respond.
Is this normal behavior for sub? Should I just meet with them and discuss these things? (I am not fond of this idea) Should I ignore them and keep searching?
Thank you for your guidance.
(Please understand I do not wish to offend anyone with the following statements. This comes from my core and is my truth for me alone.)
I feel that it is beneath me to take such a course of action. I believe I am strong enough to rise above the need to inflict physical pain as a form of punishment. My question is: Is it possible to be Dom without the use of physical?
I also had an experience with posting an ad seeking a sub which would be patient and understanding with me while I am undertaking this journey of self discovery, I have been met with an inbox full of messages asking me to meet within the first message without even sending any basic details such as, what they are in, what experience they have in D/s relationships, they don't even list any desires, When I press them for desires they give me vague answers, even going so far as to ask them what it is that they need to feel, they do not respond.
Is this normal behavior for sub? Should I just meet with them and discuss these things? (I am not fond of this idea) Should I ignore them and keep searching?
Thank you for your guidance.
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