New master looking for advice and guidance

Such a broad topic!! If you have specific questions, you are more than welcome to pm me. A master/pet relationship should develop as any relationship should. It should be balanced and communicative, and develops a lot based on yours and your kittens responses to each action. Stay aware and observant! Your sex life should not usually be your only life, and with that in mind, it's not that easy for you to "lose sight" of who she is. Kitties have personality too! If you engage in aftercare, bring a gentle transition from pet to human (I personally think it's a healthy habit).
For play, twinkly bell accessories, ticklish feathers, and collars are good (and not intense(?))!! For punishment, be sure not to become too harsh. Movement/motion restrictions (cage, muzzle, bondage.. whatever is ur jam), gentle spanking or whipping (rolled newspaper possibly?), acts of humiliation (spritz from a waterbottle, made to strip you with her teeth.. imagination is a pal) are possibilities !
I hope this has helped a bit.