My husband and I have been married for 5 going on 6 years. At first our relationship was vanilla I guess the term is. Our kinky aide started off with spankings. It has progressed to hair pulling and a little choking. I want more variety of things we do. I mean I want the whole submissive package but he is I think a switch. Sometimes he wants me to be the Dom and it makes me uncomfortable. I don't like spanking him or saying dirty mean things. That's just not me. That's his position. At least in my mind. I've tried explaining this but he doesn't understand. I understand with both have needs in this aspect and I guess I could handle it as long as if when he's the dominant one he's actually dominant but it just doesn't feel that way. He says he doesn't want to do anymore than we are already doing. What should I do?