OK so here's the situation, and I realize that different people may deal with this in different ways. For over a year now, I have been a sub to a wonderful woman who is my domme. This is a purely online relationship. And several times, in the past I have talked to her telling her I want more out of the relationship and it works for a little bit, but then sometimes it atrophies back into what doesn't feel like a D/s relationship but just a friendship. Rules are almost non-existent and tasks are few and far between. Part of this reason is because her job tends to have her go away from her home about two-four weeks every month, sometimes consecutive, sometime not. But during this time she hardly has any time for me which I can understand but it seems to be this way somtimes when she's at home too. As I said I have talked to her about this and under no circumstances am I going to break it off with her, because it's difficult enough for a guy to find a female dominant as is, and one who is a good female dominant. And despite me not always getting what I need as a sub from her, me not wanting to leave her shows you how attached I am to her.
Now here's the difficult part. I don't want to break this off with her and I don't necessarily want to go behind her back but as a switch with submissive tendencies that aren't being met, I don't know how to go about getting these needs met. I mean I can talk to her over and over but I just feel it won't do any good. As I said I have done this several times but it hasn't really been resolve. I've been thinking of taking matters into my own hands and possibly finding a slave-sitter of sorts to "take care" of me while she's on business trips. But I don't want to make any decisions that I may regret. So do you think I should grin and bear it or should I search for a "slave-sitter?" There may also be another option that I haven't thought of. I realize you may not be able to give a definite answer but I would like to hear some opinions, before I address this further. If you respond to this, thank you and I appreciate your time.
Now here's the difficult part. I don't want to break this off with her and I don't necessarily want to go behind her back but as a switch with submissive tendencies that aren't being met, I don't know how to go about getting these needs met. I mean I can talk to her over and over but I just feel it won't do any good. As I said I have done this several times but it hasn't really been resolve. I've been thinking of taking matters into my own hands and possibly finding a slave-sitter of sorts to "take care" of me while she's on business trips. But I don't want to make any decisions that I may regret. So do you think I should grin and bear it or should I search for a "slave-sitter?" There may also be another option that I haven't thought of. I realize you may not be able to give a definite answer but I would like to hear some opinions, before I address this further. If you respond to this, thank you and I appreciate your time.