Quality > Quantity
Alright since you haven't clearly figured it out considering your search thus far have been really unsuccessful (considering you have countless of posts of you searching).
Perhaps it's time that you re-consider quantity of your "ads" and think more towards the quality of the message you're presenting.
I don't mean to basically bad mouth your post, but the past couple of days it just has increase in below average ads made.
My suggestion is, take more than 5minutes of your time to write up a proper long ad, something that consists of 1.000-2.000 letters/signs/etc. Basically introduce yourself as a person, then what are your bdsm experience so far, what got you into bdsm, etc. just things that will get people into getting to know you better before they actually decide to contact you.
