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Old 03-18-2009, 07:41 PM
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Post Male Dominant / Female Submissive Checklist

After my reply to freakxxx in the Training Your Sub thread someone convinced me to post here that checklist I made up a few months ago? I never found a list that seemed complete enough before so with the help of four different checklists found on the web plus another comprehensive list of fetishes I came up with my own. It is still not quite as ?perfect? as it could have been? and this is one of the reason I think it could be a good idea to post it here: If anyone can spot something I may have missed just let me know and I could still edit the post and add it to the original list ^-^

I have also arrange the ?willingness scale?? Instead of using numbers from 0 to 5 like many other lists do I put a one-word answer choice. But I guess anyone can arrange that to their liking as well

Also, like the title says, this list is for male doms/female subs? So I?m very sorry if this doesn?t apply to everyone. When I started to write it, it was only for my persona use and I never thought of posting it anywhere until now. I guess I could perhaps try to make a more general one some day but I?m not quite sure when I?ll find the time so I make no promise here

* Last: Note that has much has I recommend using lists, especially for beginners, they are only a tool and don?t replace good communication. So it?s nice to use them to discuss or negotiate certain activities but perhaps not-so-good to rely on them only.

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Old 03-18-2009, 07:43 PM
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The Almost Perfect Male Dom/Female Sub Checklist!


- Limit: means that the activity is a hard limit and that the sub will NEVER do that activity under any circumstances ever.
- Soft limit: means that the sub has great reticences towards that activity. Those can be due to either a VERY strong dislike, fear or disdain for that activity in general but that it is not impossible to negotiate them under some special circumstances.
- Dislike: means that the sub don’t like the activity but would not object if ordered to.
- Hmm…: means that the sub has no (or very little) experience with the activity and that she is not really curious about it either.
- Curious: means that the sub have no (or very little) experience with the activity but that she find the idea interesting.
- Desire: means that the sub has little or no experience with the activity but greatly wants to try it.
- Okay: means that the sub has no problem with the activity but it has no special appeal to her.
- Like: means that the sub likes the activity at least on an occasional basis.
- Love: means that the activity figures among the sub’s favorites.

Abrasion:
Aftercare:
Age play:
Anal beads:
Anal sex:
Appearance modification:
Armbinders:
Armpit sex:
Ass cheek sex:
Ass worship:
Bare bottom spanking:
Bare-handed spanking:
Bastinado:
Bathroom use control:
Begging:
Behavior modification:
Belt spanking:
Ben Wa balls:
Bestiality:
Beating (soft):
Beating (hard):
Biting:
Blackmail (play):
Blindfolds:
Blow job:
Body paint:
Body worship:
Bondage (light):
Bondage (heavy):
Bondage (public, under clothes):
Boot blacking:
Boot worship:
Boss/secretary roleplay:
Branding (temporary):
Branding (permanent):
Breast bondage:
Breast fucking:
Breast play/torture:
Breast spanking:
Breath play:
Brother/sister roleplay:
Bruises:
Butt plugs (small):
Butt plugs (large):
Butt plugs (public, under clothes):
Cages:
Caning:
Catheterization:
Cattle prod:
Chains:
Chakra energy play:
Chamber-pot use:
Chastity belt:
Chauffeuring:
Chemical play:
Cigarette torture:
Clit torture:
Closet (locked inside of):
Clothespins:
Cock worship:
Collars (worn in private):
Collars (worn in public):
Consensual non-consent:
Contracts:
Corner time:
Corsets:
Crawling:
Creampie:
Cross-dressing:
Cuddling:
Cunnilingus:
Cutting:
Daddy/daughter roleplay:
Deep throating:
Degradation:
Denim/Jeans clothing:
Diapers (wearing):
Diapers (wetting):
Diapers (soiling):
Dilation (anal):
Dilation (vaginal):
Dildos (penetration):
Dildos (sucking on):
Discipline:
Doctor/nurse roleplay:
Domestic service:
Double penetration (oral/anal):
Double penetration (oral/vaginal):
Double penetration (vaginal/anal):
Douching:
Duct tape:
Ear plugs:
Enemas:
Erotic dance:
Examinations:
Exhibitionism (private):
Exhibitionism (public):
Eye contact restriction:
Face farting:
Face fucking (forced blow job):
Face slapping:
Fantasy abandonment:
Fantasy rape:
Fear (being scared):
Figging:
Fingering:
Fire play:
Fisting (anal):
Fisting (vaginal):
Flogging:
Food control:
Food play:
Foot worship:
Forced bedwetting:
Forced exercise:
Forced homosexuality:
Forced masturbation:
Forced nudity (private):
Forced nudity (around others):
Forced orgasms:
Forced smoking:
Forced weight gain:
Forced weight loss:
Gags (ball):
Gags (cloth):
Gags (inflatable):
Gags (panties):
Gags (phallic):
Gags (ring):
Gags (tape):
Gang bang (fantasy):
Gang bang (real):
Gas masks:
Genital bondage:
Genital sex:
Given away to another Dom (temporary):
Given away to another Dom (permanent):
Gun play:Hair bondage:
Hairbrush spanking:
Hair pulling:
Handcuffs (leather):
Handcuffs (metal):
Handcuffs (rope):
Hand job (giving):
Hand job (receiving):
Harems (serving with other subs):
Harnessing (leather):
Harnessing (rope):
Having clothes chosen for:
Head harness:
High heels (wearing):
Homework Assignments:
Hoods:
Hot oils (on genitals):
Hot wax:
Humiliation (private):
Humiliation (public):
Hypnotism :
Ice cubes :
Impregnation (fantasy) :
Impregnation (real) :
Interrogation :
Japanese rope bondage :
Kidnapping fantasy :
Kissing:
Kneeling :
Knife play:
Lactation:
Latex clothing:
Leashes:
Leather clothing:
Lectures for misbehavior:
Lingerie (wearing):
Manicure (giving):
Massage (giving):
Massage (receiving):
Medical play:
Menstruation sex:
Mental bondage:
Mind control:
Mind fucks:
Modeling for erotic photos:
Mouth bits:
Mouth soaping:
Multiple orgasms:
Mummification:
Mutual masturbation:
Name change (fantasy):
Name change (legal):
Needles:
Nipple play/torture:
Nipple weights:
Nylon clothing:
Orgasm control:
Orgasm denial:
OTK spanking:
Outdoor scenes:
Outdoor sex:
Paddles (leather):
Paddles (wood):
Pantyhose/stockings (wearing):
Pet play:
Phone sex (serving Dom):
Phone sex (serving other Doms):
Phone sex (professionally):
Piercings:
Pinching:
Plastic surgery:
Police/prisoner roleplay:
Posture training:
Priest/nun roleplay:
Prostitution (fantasy):
Prostitution (real):
Punishment (play a.k.a. “funishment”):
Punishment (real):
Pussy spanking:
Pussy/crotch torture:
Remote control devices:
Restraints (ankles):
Restraints (knees):
Restraints combinations (wrists to waist, etc.):
Restrictive rules on behavior:
Riding crops:
Rimming (giving):
Rimming (receiving):
Rituals:
Rough sex:
Saran wrapping:
Scarification:
Scat:
Scent play (aromas):
Scratching:
Serving as furniture:
Serving as toilet (urine):
Serving as toilet (feces):
Serving as waitress:
Serving other Doms (supervised):
Serving other Doms (unsupervised):
Sexual deprivation (short term):
Sexual deprivation (long term):
Shaving (body hair):
Shaving (genitals):
Shaving (head):
Skinny-dipping:
Skirts (wearing):
Sleep assault:
Sleep deprivation:
Sleepsacks/body bags:
Slutty clothing (private):
Slutty clothing (public):
Spandex clothing:
Speculums (anal):
Speculums (vaginal):
Speech restrictions:
Spitting:
Spreader bars:
Staples:
Straight jackets:
Suction cups:
Suspension (vertical):
Suspension (inverted):
Suspension (horizontal):
Swallowing (semen):
Swallowing (urine):
Swallowing (feces):
Swapping (with another couple):
Swinging (multiple couples):
Switching:
Tampon training (in ass):
Tasting own cum:
Tattoos:
Teacher/student roleplay:
Tears (crying):
Teasing:
TENS unit:
Threesomes (FFM):
Threesomes (FMM):
Thumbcuffs:
Tickling:
Triple penetration:
Urethral fucking:
Urethral sounds:
Verbal humiliation:
Vibrators (on genitals):
Vibrators (penetration):
Videos (being recorded):
Violet Wand:
Vomitting:
Voyeurism:
Waterbondage:
Watersports:
Water torture:
Waxing (hair removal):
Wearing body fluids:
Wearing symbolic jewelry:
Whipping:
Wrestling:
Zapping (electric fly swatters):

Last edited by Chloe; 04-19-2010 at 08:47 AM. Reason: why didn't I think of these before?!
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Old 03-18-2009, 09:25 PM
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Great list! Thanks
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Old 03-18-2009, 09:33 PM
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You're welcome Like I said, I never thought about posting it anywhere as I had done done for personal purposes then. But if it can be of interest for someone else then that's great! And if anyone finds something I missed and suggest that I add it to the list then it will just improve it
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Old 03-19-2009, 08:31 AM
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This is a great one, i have my potential sub fill this out as well as other stuff to see where they stand and whether or not i wish to train them, having to many limits i will usually not train them
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Old 03-19-2009, 08:39 AM
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Thanks for the list, I'll use it in my next slave application,.
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Old 03-20-2009, 01:09 PM
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It sounds really good Chloe, one thing though...

I would add the word desire to the list of word answers, an activity that one has little to no experience in, but greatly wants to. It is much stronger than simple curiosity.
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Old 03-20-2009, 01:35 PM
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Yes, you're right Had not thought about it since nothing really applied this way when I filled it I suppose but it makes sense to add it so I'll edit the list with this addition

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Old 12-20-2009, 01:31 AM
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I took your list and put in a spreadsheet format with drop down boxes for answers. I figured it would make navigating and filling out the list a little easier. I made a couple changes to terminology in an attempt to cut down on instructions needed at the top. I'd like to know what people think and if anyone has any suggestions. The file should be available for download here http://www.mediafire.com/?nfn0m01mybn. Let me know if there are any issues with the link, this is my first time using this server.
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handy that is cheers for that, always good to find out what a slave's exp is and they can do it in there own time. Then you can chat about respones, its a good ice breaker..

cheers if i think of anythin i`ll yet u know.
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This list is amazing, and has even given me a few new ideas that i had not thought about, so thanks.
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you should add webcam to that list
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Old 03-25-2010, 08:07 PM
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you should add webcam to that list
Hmm I guess I could but then again a lot of the activities listed there could be done on webcam..
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Thanks thats a very good and detailed list.
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hmmm i would try everything on that list i think....except maybe Catheterization...i dunno what that is?!?! (somethings i wouold have to be really into the person or relationship for, or really commited to what we were doing) but yaaa i guess anything. lol
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Catherization is the use of a catheter.

Really great list Chloe. Thanks for sharing.
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Old 04-22-2011, 11:17 AM
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yaaa i checed it up...but how is that sexual?! like replace your heart with a catheter?!

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Catherization is the use of a catheter.

Really great list Chloe. Thanks for sharing.
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It means sticking a catheter into your urethra to your bladder to control your urine output. Some people find it erotic- it's a kink like many others, sarah
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