Male Dominant / Female Submissive Checklist
After my reply to freakxxx in the Training Your Sub thread someone convinced me to post here that checklist I made up a few months ago? I never found a list that seemed complete enough before so with the help of four different checklists found on the web plus another comprehensive list of fetishes I came up with my own. It is still not quite as ?perfect? as it could have been? and this is one of the reason I think it could be a good idea to post it here: If anyone can spot something I may have missed just let me know and I could still edit the post and add it to the original list ^-^
I have also arrange the ?willingness scale?? Instead of using numbers from 0 to 5 like many other lists do I put a one-word answer choice. But I guess anyone can arrange that to their liking as well
Also, like the title says, this list is for male doms/female subs? So I?m very sorry if this doesn?t apply to everyone. When I started to write it, it was only for my persona use and I never thought of posting it anywhere until now. I guess I could perhaps try to make a more general one some day but I?m not quite sure when I?ll find the time so I make no promise here
* Last: Note that has much has I recommend using lists, especially for beginners, they are only a tool and don?t replace good communication. So it?s nice to use them to discuss or negotiate certain activities but perhaps not-so-good to rely on them only.
Last edited by Chloe; 04-03-2010 at 10:12 AM.
The Almost Perfect Male Dom/Female Sub Checklist!
- Limit: means that the activity is a hard limit and that the sub will NEVER do that activity under any circumstances ever.
- Soft limit: means that the sub has great reticences towards that activity. Those can be due to either a VERY strong dislike, fear or disdain for that activity in general but that it is not impossible to negotiate them under some special circumstances.
- Dislike: means that the sub don’t like the activity but would not object if ordered to.
- Hmm…: means that the sub has no (or very little) experience with the activity and that she is not really curious about it either.
- Curious: means that the sub have no (or very little) experience with the activity but that she find the idea interesting.
- Desire: means that the sub has little or no experience with the activity but greatly wants to try it.
- Okay: means that the sub has no problem with the activity but it has no special appeal to her.
- Like: means that the sub likes the activity at least on an occasional basis.
- Love: means that the activity figures among the sub’s favorites.
Ass cheek sex:
Bare bottom spanking:
Bathroom use control:
Ben Wa balls:
Bondage (public, under clothes):
Butt plugs (small):
Butt plugs (large):
Butt plugs (public, under clothes):
Chakra energy play:
Closet (locked inside of):
Collars (worn in private):
Collars (worn in public):
Dildos (sucking on):
Double penetration (oral/anal):
Double penetration (oral/vaginal):
Double penetration (vaginal/anal):
Eye contact restriction:
Face fucking (forced blow job):
Fear (being scared):
Forced nudity (private):
Forced nudity (around others):
Forced weight gain:
Forced weight loss:
Gang bang (fantasy):
Gang bang (real):
Given away to another Dom (temporary):
Given away to another Dom (permanent):
Gun play:Hair bondage:
Hand job (giving):
Hand job (receiving):
Harems (serving with other subs):
Having clothes chosen for:
High heels (wearing):
Hot oils (on genitals):
Ice cubes :
Impregnation (fantasy) :
Impregnation (real) :
Japanese rope bondage :
Kidnapping fantasy :
Lectures for misbehavior:
Modeling for erotic photos:
Name change (fantasy):
Name change (legal):
Phone sex (serving Dom):
Phone sex (serving other Doms):
Phone sex (professionally):
Punishment (play a.k.a. “funishment”):
Remote control devices:
Restraints combinations (wrists to waist, etc.):
Restrictive rules on behavior:
Scent play (aromas):
Serving as furniture:
Serving as toilet (urine):
Serving as toilet (feces):
Serving as waitress:
Serving other Doms (supervised):
Serving other Doms (unsupervised):
Sexual deprivation (short term):
Sexual deprivation (long term):
Shaving (body hair):
Slutty clothing (private):
Slutty clothing (public):
Swapping (with another couple):
Swinging (multiple couples):
Tampon training (in ass):
Tasting own cum:
Vibrators (on genitals):
Videos (being recorded):
Waxing (hair removal):
Wearing body fluids:
Wearing symbolic jewelry:
Zapping (electric fly swatters):
Last edited by Chloe; 04-19-2010 at 08:47 AM. Reason: why didn't I think of these before?!
You're welcome Like I said, I never thought about posting it anywhere as I had done done for personal purposes then. But if it can be of interest for someone else then that's great! And if anyone finds something I missed and suggest that I add it to the list then it will just improve it
This is a great one, i have my potential sub fill this out as well as other stuff to see where they stand and whether or not i wish to train them, having to many limits i will usually not train them
It sounds really good Chloe, one thing though...
I would add the word desire to the list of word answers, an activity that one has little to no experience in, but greatly wants to. It is much stronger than simple curiosity.
Yes, you're right Had not thought about it since nothing really applied this way when I filled it I suppose but it makes sense to add it so I'll edit the list with this addition
Last edited by Chloe; 03-20-2009 at 01:38 PM.
I took your list and put in a spreadsheet format with drop down boxes for answers. I figured it would make navigating and filling out the list a little easier. I made a couple changes to terminology in an attempt to cut down on instructions needed at the top. I'd like to know what people think and if anyone has any suggestions. The file should be available for download here http://www.mediafire.com/?nfn0m01mybn. Let me know if there are any issues with the link, this is my first time using this server.
handy that is cheers for that, always good to find out what a slave's exp is and they can do it in there own time. Then you can chat about respones, its a good ice breaker..
cheers if i think of anythin i`ll yet u know.
hmmm i would try everything on that list i think....except maybe Catheterization...i dunno what that is?!?! (somethings i wouold have to be really into the person or relationship for, or really commited to what we were doing) but yaaa i guess anything. lol
yaaa i checed it up...but how is that sexual?! like replace your heart with a catheter?!
It means sticking a catheter into your urethra to your bladder to control your urine output. Some people find it erotic- it's a kink like many others, sarah