I am a Sadistic Dom from California who has been in this lifestyle for over 7 years now. I train new subs locally and online.
I read your profile and was glad to know that you are interested in learning the lifestyle rather than simple experiment with it. BDSM is like a road trip and the different fetishes are the different destinations you can go to. Once on the road you have you decide which destination to go.
If you wish to learn more you are welcome to my training.
May you have great time here.