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Would you assess your activities as equal to any average BDSM? Not "softer", not less painful than what most people do out there? The outcome of this question would be: why don't you feel the negative side effects that so many kinky people speak about? Because you can tolerate what the others...

Many people out there on the internet say that they feel a so-called "drop" some days after kinky sex? (You probably have heard about it, as this is so common in kinky circles.) Your narrative sounds more carefree. Would you say that BDSM contains for you and your wife only positive sides, and...

Is it so that your story contains one or two very long pauses (even decades) from any BDSM? In that case, it sounds like something that you like, but can also live without.

How about you, Merlin, any insight on this one more question: Ordinary sex is typically between two partners in a committed love relationship. There are exceptions, of course, both casual and commercial, but they are the minority. How about kinky sex? A "dom seeking more subs" is not a...

One more question: Ordinary sex is typically between two partners in a committed love relationship. There are exceptions, of course, both casual and commercial, but they are the minority. How about kinky sex? A "dom seeking more subs" is not a committed love relationship scenario. Is it...

It takes some imagining not to see how common it is that men try to get sex from women who don't want to engage in it. There is a difference in willingness. What would be the motive of a woman to lie that she has difficulty having an orgasm? The social expectation is the opposite, being able is...

Not "in general". A significant minority of women are absolutely obsessed with sex. I wrote in Google "how many percent of women orgasm in sex", and this is the first link that Google gives: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5087699/ This link does not even function for me, maybe...

I tried to find the typical or average duration of a BDSM session by the Google method, without remarkable luck. But I landed on a page that made a surprising yet familiar statement: "The scene is about connecting with your partner and having fun. Sometimes it's about sexual pleasure too."...

Would you describe this as a matter of orientation, not enough people are "natural doms", or a matter of skills and confidence: it is not easy technically to do the job well, nor a light decision to take such responsibility for other people?

Is it equally popular to be dominant or submissive? Is there an approximately balanced ratio between those? And then, with that answer in mind: are men and women equally probably dominant or submissive? Or is one gender over-represented among dominants or submissives? (This gets a bit tricky...

The movie was a huge hit among women, and I witnessed this also in my social surroundings. My interpretation of it back then was the same theory, with which I unsuccessfully opened this discussion: women saw in the movie the hope of finding something more to spice up their boring sex lives. The...

This has been a most fruitful discussion. Lamentably we were unable to clarify a couple of interesting and relevant points. Namely, how common statistically is among kinky people: - a constant feeling of shame - the decision to (try to) quit being kinky However: I guess I give up on the...

I test your remarkable patience yet with one question. Gays and lesbians march in Pride parades, trying to convert what once was a shameful secret into something that one can publicly admit with pride. (Though the vast majority of gays in the world still stay in the closet, if the statistics...

So this "guilt" was 50-50 either the fear of social shame, or guilt for having thoughts that one doesn't accept himself/herself either. How about the rate of people who try to quit? (The rate of actually succeeding to quit was said to be low, but how many will decide to quit -- mostly quite...

Why do they try to give up? To become monogamous with a partner who is not into kinky stuff? What about newcomers, who try it once or twice: any guess on the drop-out rate? When people try any new hobby whatsoever, there is a drop-out rate. "Now I have seen it, this wasn't my thing."