Do men objectify femdoms?

Do you agree that femdoms are objectified beyond fantasy and even while looking for real partners?


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StormyDungeons

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Lurking around I have come across many submissive men talking about their femdom fantasies where the female dominant/top is always extremely sexy, always dressed very sexily and wears the highest heels, now I understand fantasies and there's nothing wrong in it.

But somehow these objectified physical traits have also made their way into general expectations and requirements sometimes reflected in ads seeking for femdoms as well. I may be wrong about my perceptions and that is the reason why I have made this thread to seek more insights.

I feel such expectations may be influenced from porn or paid services etc. idk and if one is really looking to experience submission in D/s dynamic with regular people then this false expectation is self defeating as this kind of objectification is actually subjugation of someone you want to submit to:eek: and just FYI heels that high aren't that comfortable. The reason why this topic crossed my mind was as a female sub I never objectified male doms or felt that to be a relevant factor to be considered but then that could just be me.

Again like I said, I do not believe this is always true for everyone and just wanted to gather some insights from all of you to gain some perspective on this. So share your thoughts on this topic and please don't attack me for posting this thread, pretty please..lol.

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This post is an oldie but a goodie in more ways than one.

Dating back to the early 1970s a German researcher named Shere Hite was convinced that all females had a mega libido just waiting to get out but suffered the constraints of social and religious pressures that kept those subdued.

The current surging of sexually assertive females most simply is that we have reached a point where society and religion has lost is dominating chokehold on female minds allowing them to approach the bedroom as equals to males.

Of course that is a huge development given the centuries of female repression.

In my own research i have concluded that it is NOT a thing where males are seeking to be totally dominated but rather more males are allowing the females to be involved, in control, and in far more ways than traditionally allowed.

Many females are going for this as suddenly sex for them is not all about getting pregnant but rather is about pleasure, adventure, and expression.

This has been a long time coming and we should appreciate it.
 

dreamcro

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In my opinion it isnt so crucial that sub is physically attracted to dom, as long as dominant person doesnt want some (too) intimate stuff from sub. Idk how anyone else thinks, but for me is not so much how you look, than what you do. Its greatly pleasurable for me when I feel that dom actually likes and enjoys in what hes/shes doing to sub or ordering sub to do to him/herself. If scene for kinky session is agreed by all sides involved, roleplay goes within limits of all sides involved and is equally pleasurable for all sides, than physical attraction is almost unimportant. Off course mutual trust, understanding and discretion is a must. At least it is for me.
 

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