Does age matter?

mastertony04

Kinky Newbie
  • Bisexual
  • Male
  • Dominant
May 9, 2020
2
1
3
25
Hey I'm 25 and many people think that I'm too young to be a dom..but my question is
Does age matter??
I mean you can't judge the experience of a person with his age... I had been in this lifestyle from my early teenage...
And I think I am pretty sure to own a woman's heart by my attitude and by gaining her trust for a perfect d/s relationship...
Please tell me your views about it..
Does age really matter??images (15).jpeg
 

Magnetic

Distinguished Member
  • Straight
  • Male
  • Dominant
Jul 19, 2016
252
45
28
I am a firm believer that subs should be younger than their doms, preferably much younger (10 years or more). In your case, you cannot get one that is much younger (except by becoming a pedophile, which is so sick I will assume you won't), but you can get a younger one.

However, subing to a younger dom is degrading in its own right... Being forced to submit to someone who is younger than you? Please!

Still, I would not be comfortable unless my sub was much younger than me. In my case, much, much younger!
 
  • Like
Reactions: mastertony04

mastertony04

Kinky Newbie
  • Bisexual
  • Male
  • Dominant
May 9, 2020
2
1
3
25
I am a firm believer that subs should be younger than their doms, preferably much younger (10 years or more). In your case, you cannot get one that is much younger (except by becoming a pedophile, which is so sick I will assume you won't), but you can get a younger one.

However, subing to a younger dom is degrading in its own right... Being forced to submit to someone who is younger than you? Please!

Still, I would not be comfortable unless my sub was much younger than me. In my case, much, much younger!
Thank you for your views...
 
  • Like
Reactions: Magnetic

poetrylover828

<<::: Verified :::>> Panda ʕ •ᴥ•ʔ
  • Bisexual
  • Female
  • Submissive
Aug 19, 2017
26
41
13
Ask 100 different people you can get up to 100 different responses. For same age is going to matter. Others less so. For me I want a partner close in age. But if I’m older than them fine and if I’m younger than them fine.

Being dominate isn’t based on an age. It’s based on the skills and knowledge you have. If you know how to do the kinks you and your partner share in a safe, sane, and consensual way then it will be good. Focus on communication with potential partners. Once stay at home orders are over and events are back find a local munch and some classes to learn more and make friends.
 

subzzzero

Distinguished Member
  • Straight
  • Male
  • Dominant
Dec 6, 2015
366
167
43
Claiming experience in the kink lifestyle from "early teens" to me is the issue. I'm not going to say its impossible but definitely improbable. No one in the lifestyle is going to allow someone under 18 to participate with them, nor attend munches, meets, or mentor that underage person (several dungeons are even 21 and up only) If someone in fact did participate with someone underage then they should have been jailed. Where as I don't think age necessarily relates to experience, at the age of "early teens" one is hardly in a position to be managing someone else as they are still living at home as a dependent of some sort of parental/ custodial guardian. Experience does not consist of I had rough sex , i told a girl what to do on skyep/kik/etc, or I watched bdsm porn.

So, does you being 25 matter? Well no not really . I have come across several men and women on both sides of the slash who were 19-21 and were better educated and versed in bdsm/ kink life well beyond others who had been at it for many years. The thing was those people started at 18. They researched, they attended local munches meets and spectated on dungeon 101 nights. They learned with a mentor and were oversighted by a mentor until such time they could safely do it on their own. That being said I have talked to countless people of all ages 30s-80s and they weren't necessarily any better. Age means more life experience but not necessarily "lifestyle" exp.

So when considering someone, I myself don't focus on the age aspect. I focus on the active years of BDSM/ kink experience. And when I say experience I mean actively participating. They should have detailed examples and be able to respond with specifics when we talk. Not just "I got lots of exp" Saying "I've been in this lifestyle for X amount of years" means nothing unless you know what that person really actively did.

The other issue is due to this stereotype of age = exp. New subs are more likely to trust older doms just because. That also works in opposite. Several guys seek out a new younger girl much younger than themselves in the hopes that they can take advantage of that lack of exp. Where as an experienced sub would see through the doms bullshit almost immediately and call him on it. Just browse some of the many posts here youll see it.
 
  • Like
Reactions: poetrylover828

Featured Threads

New Personals