Girlfriend and my friend

Ccdruum

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First time poster…I don’t know if this goes here so tell me if I should move it.

my predicament is that I am in a long term relationship and I do love my girlfriend, she’s a switch into bondage like I am, my problem is that recently one of my long time female friends has been getting really close and touchy with me, I made a joke about rope (I’m a sailor) and she made a bondage joke… I wouldn’t want to cheat on my girlfriend but I also want to try something with her, she’s bi and semi jokingly asked to have a threesome, my girlfriend is bi-curious and said (out of context) that she thinks my friend is cute), so I was asking for a couple pieces of advice: should I bring up the idea to my girlfriend? If so, how should I bring it up? And I’ve never done a threesome before let alone with bondage but I was hoping to include that, any suggestions?
 

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Clothes on sober discussion with the girlfriend first.
Don’t make it a pressured talk either. Get her full unbiased side. Even if it’s a “yes I would like to do one.” There still needs to be discussion about boundaries and such during the threesome. She also needs to be in agreement with the girl you both choose. At that time you all three need to sit down and discuss again so that all three know the expectations and boundaries.
Many threesomes flop due to one getting jealous or to it crossing a line that could have been avoided if they had talked first.
I know this sounds like the boring approach but it is the best way for you all to make sure the time is enjoyable. Rushing into a sloppy surprise threesome could cost you one or both relationships.

As far as including bondage. Find out what role each female prefers. Sometimes you’ll have an alpha sub of sorts. Where she will sub to you and the second will sub to you both. Or they’re both sub and you will be having to control it all for both. In that case stock up on extra rope lol.
Also just be sure you understand monitoring two subs at once and using bondage means you have to really be paying attention. Can’t leave one tied too long while working on the other.
 
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Ccdruum

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Clothes on sober discussion with the girlfriend first.
Don’t make it a pressured talk either. Get her full unbiased side. Even if it’s a “yes I would like to do one.” There still needs to be discussion about boundaries and such during the threesome. She also needs to be in agreement with the girl you both choose. At that time you all three need to sit down and discuss again so that all three know the expectations and boundaries.
Many threesomes flop due to one getting jealous or to it crossing a line that could have been avoided if they had talked first.
I know this sounds like the boring approach but it is the best way for you all to make sure the time is enjoyable. Rushing into a sloppy surprise threesome could cost you one or both relationships.

As far as including bondage. Find out what role each female prefers. Sometimes you’ll have an alpha sub of sorts. Where she will sub to you and the second will sub to you both. Or they’re both sub and you will be having to control it all for both. In that case stock up on extra rope lol.
Also just be sure you understand monitoring two subs at once and using bondage means you have to really be paying attention. Can’t leave one tied too long while working on the other.
Thank you so much man, this is some really awesome advice! I going to take a few days and just think everything over just so I don’t end up making a stupid horny mistake lmao..
 
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