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I wanted to post a thread here talking specifically about mine and @KpopPunkKink 's experiences, since I know there aren't many married couples on here exploring kink together. I figured this way, if someone ever joined the forum who was in a similar situation, they'd have our experiences to learn from.

A little background knowledge: My husband and I have been best friends for over half our lives. We didnt start dating until about 6 years after our friendship began. At this point, we've now been married for over 7 years. He's still my best friend, and I love him to death.

We had a very vanilla sex life in the beginning. I was his first partner and I think he was scared of doing something wrong or that would upset me. It was good, don't get me wrong, but it wasn't kinky.

Then about a year or two before we got married, his sex drive started to slow down a TON. I talked to him about how it made me feel unwanted when I always had to initiate it, and I even tried bringing up kink to spice things up, but it didn't do anything. He just wasn't interested.

For a LONG time, I thought maybe he was ACE or something. It was obvious that everything else in our relationship stayed the same, and that he still loved me, we just weren't intimate anymore. He never snuck off or tried to hide anything, and I was never worried. I just learned to deal with things on my own.

I got a lot of toys. I watched a lot of (bad) porn. Then I started exploring and fantasizing about kink. I read a LOT of smut, did a lot of research on sites like kinktalk, and just dealt with things on my own. I stopped trying to initiate because it was obvious he didn't want it and it made him uncomfortable. The last time we tried to have sex (on our honeymoon) he couldn't even keep it up long enough to finish. I figured he was just trying to make me happy...and that he really just wasn't interested in the sex, so I let it go.

He knew I had toys. He knew I masturbated and I'd hinted at the kink exploration multiple times in many ways. He just genuinely didn't seem interested, and I honestly think his mind was so far away from sex that my "hints" weren't obvious enough for him to pick up on anyways. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Fast forward 7 years: we find out he has had a 2cm PITUITARY TUMOR the whole time, which was causing a massive overproduction of prolactin (like he almost started lactating...for real), and had caused his testosterone levels to drop through the FLOOR. He didn't want sex or cuddling or anything physical because his hormones were a giant hot mess.

They started treating the tumor with medication to shrink it, and not too long ago his hormones started to normalize. He started wanting sex again...a LOT....Basically like going through a 2nd puberty. AND he wanted to cuddle, and kiss, and just be close. I honestly dont remember how long it had been since our last real kiss before the "first one" recently. I know it had been a long time.

I knew at that point we needed to have a serious conversation. Our sex life had always been so vanilla in the past, but while I'd been dealing with my own sexual needs on my own over the last 7 or 8 years I'd learned a LOT about myself, my desires, and my kinks....and I wanted more than just vanilla sex. I was terrified to share some of those desires and kinks with him because I was so worried he would judge me, but I should have known better. He loves me just like I love him, and not only was he open to listening, but he was actually excited about it.

The more we talk about it and discuss things we'd like to try, the more comfortable and confident he gets. We've talked about consent, and about how we shouldn't be scared to try things because if the other person doesn't want/like something we will be open and honest about it, without judgment.

I was TERRIFIED to tell him exactly how deep my kink exploration has gone. Words like "humiliation" and "exposure" and "pain" and "pictures on the internet" were so hard to say...but I laid it all out for him anyways because I wanted us to truly be on the same page.

And his response has been nothing short of amazing. Not only has he been willing to explore with me....but he's done his own research and found things that HE WOULD like to try. If you asked me a year ago if I thought he'd take pictures of me tied up and post them on the internet I would have laughed at your face....but he's been so willing to explore my kinks right along with me, and has even found he also gets pleasure from a lot of them too....and that's just been huge for us. He's been open and honest with me about what he likes, doesnt like, and maybe wants to eventually try....and he's so much more confident than he ever was before. I believe a lot of that confidence comes from knowing I'm not going to judge him, but he could probably share more about that.

Honestly @KpopPunkKink I hope you respond to this post and talk about how all of this has been for you, because it could help someone feel more comfortable sharing their kinks with their significant other after hearing it from your perspective.

Anyways, I guess what I'm trying to say is that we are still exploring and still learning, and we are in the very beginning stages of exploring kink TOGETHER.....but the big thing I've found so far is that open and honest communication has absolutely been the key. You really have to put yourself out there and take that chance, but it's so worth the risk. I'm SO GLAD I told him everything, and I'm so excited to see what the future has in store for us. 😊🥰

Also, if you used to like sex and you suddenly stop wanting it, please go to the doctor and don't be embarrassed to talk about it. Make sure you don’t have a brain tumor. lol 🤦🏻‍♀️😅

Anyways, hopefully this inspires someone else out there to open up to their significant other about their kinks and desires, so yall can enjoy the kinky married life too. ❤
 

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I wanted to post a thread here talking specifically about mine and @KpopPunkKink 's experiences, since I know there aren't many married couples on here exploring kink together. I figured this way, if someone ever joined the forum who was in a similar situation, they'd have our experiences to learn from.

A little background knowledge: My husband and I have been best friends for over half our lives. We didnt start dating until about 6 years after our friendship began. At this point, we've now been married for over 7 years. He's still my best friend, and I love him to death.

We had a very vanilla sex life in the beginning. I was his first partner and I think he was scared of doing something wrong or that would upset me. It was good, don't get me wrong, but it wasn't kinky.

Then about a year or two before we got married, his sex drive started to slow down a TON. I talked to him about how it made me feel unwanted when I always had to initiate it, and I even tried bringing up kink to spice things up, but it didn't do anything. He just wasn't interested.

For a LONG time, I thought maybe he was ACE or something. It was obvious that everything else in our relationship stayed the same, and that he still loved me, we just weren't intimate anymore. He never snuck off or tried to hide anything, and I was never worried. I just learned to deal with things on my own.

I got a lot of toys. I watched a lot of (bad) porn. Then I started exploring and fantasizing about kink. I read a LOT of smut, did a lot of research on sites like kinktalk, and just dealt with things on my own. I stopped trying to initiate because it was obvious he didn't want it and it made him uncomfortable. The last time we tried to have sex (on our honeymoon) he couldn't even keep it up long enough to finish. I figured he was just trying to make me happy...and that he really just wasn't interested in the sex, so I let it go.

He knew I had toys. He knew I masturbated and I'd hinted at the kink exploration multiple times in many ways. He just genuinely didn't seem interested, and I honestly think his mind was so far away from sex that my "hints" weren't obvious enough for him to pick up on anyways. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Fast forward 7 years: we find out he has had a 2cm PITUITARY TUMOR the whole time, which was causing a massive overproduction of prolactin (like he almost started lactating...for real), and had caused his testosterone levels to drop through the FLOOR. He didn't want sex or cuddling or anything physical because his hormones were a giant hot mess.

They started treating the tumor with medication to shrink it, and not too long ago his hormones started to normalize. He started wanting sex again...a LOT....Basically like going through a 2nd puberty. AND he wanted to cuddle, and kiss, and just be close. I honestly dont remember how long it had been since our last real kiss before the "first one" recently. I know it had been a long time.

I knew at that point we needed to have a serious conversation. Our sex life had always been so vanilla in the past, but while I'd been dealing with my own sexual needs on my own over the last 7 or 8 years I'd learned a LOT about myself, my desires, and my kinks....and I wanted more than just vanilla sex. I was terrified to share some of those desires and kinks with him because I was so worried he would judge me, but I should have known better. He loves me just like I love him, and not only was he open to listening, but he was actually excited about it.

The more we talk about it and discuss things we'd like to try, the more comfortable and confident he gets. We've talked about consent, and about how we shouldn't be scared to try things because if the other person doesn't want/like something we will be open and honest about it, without judgment.

I was TERRIFIED to tell him exactly how deep my kink exploration has gone. Words like "humiliation" and "exposure" and "pain" and "pictures on the internet" were so hard to say...but I laid it all out for him anyways because I wanted us to truly be on the same page.

And his response has been nothing short of amazing. Not only has he been willing to explore with me....but he's done his own research and found things that HE WOULD like to try. If you asked me a year ago if I thought he'd take pictures of me tied up and post them on the internet I would have laughed at your face....but he's been so willing to explore my kinks right along with me, and has even found he also gets pleasure from a lot of them too....and that's just been huge for us. He's been open and honest with me about what he likes, doesnt like, and maybe wants to eventually try....and he's so much more confident than he ever was before. I believe a lot of that confidence comes from knowing I'm not going to judge him, but he could probably share more about that.

Honestly @KpopPunkKink I hope you respond to this post and talk about how all of this has been for you, because it could help someone feel more comfortable sharing their kinks with their significant other after hearing it from your perspective.

Anyways, I guess what I'm trying to say is that we are still exploring and still learning, and we are in the very beginning stages of exploring kink TOGETHER.....but the big thing I've found so far is that open and honest communication has absolutely been the key. You really have to put yourself out there and take that chance, but it's so worth the risk. I'm SO GLAD I told him everything, and I'm so excited to see what the future has in store for us. 😊🥰

Also, if you used to like sex and you suddenly stop wanting it, please go to the doctor and don't be embarrassed to talk about it. Make sure you don’t have a brain tumor. lol 🤦🏻‍♀️😅

Anyways, hopefully this inspires someone else out there to open up to their significant other about their kinks and desires, so yall can enjoy the kinky married life too. ❤
If you had told me last year, that I would be posting pictures of you in the internet, I would have laughed and thought you were joking. Now? I want to post your body everywhere for people to see what I see. I want people to want you, so I can have you. I never would have thought that this would be the case, I was so shy and reserved. Now my eyes are open, blindfolded maybe, but definitely open. Words cannot describe how grateful I truly am that you opened up to me, I never judged you for anything that you told me. I was mostly just confused, but very receptive. Communication can truly make a relationship, and it just made ours ten times stronger. I'm glad you told me, I'm glad my brain was so open, because if it wasn't for the hormone change I don't know what would have happened. Anyways, I'm so open to everything you have to share with me, ask me to do, or do to you. I'd choose no one else to be with.
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Thank you both for sharing your journey with us. This is such an inspirational story and despite the ominous overtones "tumor" implies you both demonstrate how happy you are, proving life really is what you make of it.
I'm glad to share it. I was so scared to open up and tell him everything. I literally hid in the bathtub and texted him probably a 5000 word essay explaining everything (I didnt screenshot the whole thing, just bits and pieces, but you get the idea). He didn't even respond, which had me terrified. He came into the bathroom to talk about it.

It was hard ripping off that bandaid, but I'm SO GLAD I did it anyways and it's brought us so much closer. I just want to hopefully inspire others to be open and honest with the person they love about their kinks......because you have to remember that person loves you too. Trust them not to judge you (or run away screaming lol).
 

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I'm glad to share it. I was so scared to open up and tell him everything. I literally hid in the bathtub and texted him probably a 5000 word essay explaining everything (I didnt screenshot the whole thing, just bits and pieces, but you get the idea). He didn't even respond, which had me terrified. He came into the bathroom to talk about it.

It was hard ripping off that bandaid, but I'm SO GLAD I did it anyways and it's brought us so much closer. I just want to hopefully inspire others to be open and honest with the person they love about their kinks......because you have to remember that person loves you too. Trust them not to judge you (or run away screaming lol).
I am so thankful that you told me, I'm so grateful. It's only for the better.
 

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I wanted to post a thread here talking specifically about mine and @KpopPunkKink 's experiences, since I know there aren't many married couples on here exploring kink together. I figured this way, if someone ever joined the forum who was in a similar situation, they'd have our experiences to learn from.

A little background knowledge: My husband and I have been best friends for over half our lives. We didnt start dating until about 6 years after our friendship began. At this point, we've now been married for over 7 years. He's still my best friend, and I love him to death.

We had a very vanilla sex life in the beginning. I was his first partner and I think he was scared of doing something wrong or that would upset me. It was good, don't get me wrong, but it wasn't kinky.

Then about a year or two before we got married, his sex drive started to slow down a TON. I talked to him about how it made me feel unwanted when I always had to initiate it, and I even tried bringing up kink to spice things up, but it didn't do anything. He just wasn't interested.

For a LONG time, I thought maybe he was ACE or something. It was obvious that everything else in our relationship stayed the same, and that he still loved me, we just weren't intimate anymore. He never snuck off or tried to hide anything, and I was never worried. I just learned to deal with things on my own.

I got a lot of toys. I watched a lot of (bad) porn. Then I started exploring and fantasizing about kink. I read a LOT of smut, did a lot of research on sites like kinktalk, and just dealt with things on my own. I stopped trying to initiate because it was obvious he didn't want it and it made him uncomfortable. The last time we tried to have sex (on our honeymoon) he couldn't even keep it up long enough to finish. I figured he was just trying to make me happy...and that he really just wasn't interested in the sex, so I let it go.

He knew I had toys. He knew I masturbated and I'd hinted at the kink exploration multiple times in many ways. He just genuinely didn't seem interested, and I honestly think his mind was so far away from sex that my "hints" weren't obvious enough for him to pick up on anyways. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Fast forward 7 years: we find out he has had a 2cm PITUITARY TUMOR the whole time, which was causing a massive overproduction of prolactin (like he almost started lactating...for real), and had caused his testosterone levels to drop through the FLOOR. He didn't want sex or cuddling or anything physical because his hormones were a giant hot mess.

They started treating the tumor with medication to shrink it, and not too long ago his hormones started to normalize. He started wanting sex again...a LOT....Basically like going through a 2nd puberty. AND he wanted to cuddle, and kiss, and just be close. I honestly dont remember how long it had been since our last real kiss before the "first one" recently. I know it had been a long time.

I knew at that point we needed to have a serious conversation. Our sex life had always been so vanilla in the past, but while I'd been dealing with my own sexual needs on my own over the last 7 or 8 years I'd learned a LOT about myself, my desires, and my kinks....and I wanted more than just vanilla sex. I was terrified to share some of those desires and kinks with him because I was so worried he would judge me, but I should have known better. He loves me just like I love him, and not only was he open to listening, but he was actually excited about it.

The more we talk about it and discuss things we'd like to try, the more comfortable and confident he gets. We've talked about consent, and about how we shouldn't be scared to try things because if the other person doesn't want/like something we will be open and honest about it, without judgment.

I was TERRIFIED to tell him exactly how deep my kink exploration has gone. Words like "humiliation" and "exposure" and "pain" and "pictures on the internet" were so hard to say...but I laid it all out for him anyways because I wanted us to truly be on the same page.

And his response has been nothing short of amazing. Not only has he been willing to explore with me....but he's done his own research and found things that HE WOULD like to try. If you asked me a year ago if I thought he'd take pictures of me tied up and post them on the internet I would have laughed at your face....but he's been so willing to explore my kinks right along with me, and has even found he also gets pleasure from a lot of them too....and that's just been huge for us. He's been open and honest with me about what he likes, doesnt like, and maybe wants to eventually try....and he's so much more confident than he ever was before. I believe a lot of that confidence comes from knowing I'm not going to judge him, but he could probably share more about that.

Honestly @KpopPunkKink I hope you respond to this post and talk about how all of this has been for you, because it could help someone feel more comfortable sharing their kinks with their significant other after hearing it from your perspective.

Anyways, I guess what I'm trying to say is that we are still exploring and still learning, and we are in the very beginning stages of exploring kink TOGETHER.....but the big thing I've found so far is that open and honest communication has absolutely been the key. You really have to put yourself out there and take that chance, but it's so worth the risk. I'm SO GLAD I told him everything, and I'm so excited to see what the future has in store for us. 😊🥰

Also, if you used to like sex and you suddenly stop wanting it, please go to the doctor and don't be embarrassed to talk about it. Make sure you don’t have a brain tumor. lol 🤦🏻‍♀️😅

Anyways, hopefully this inspires someone else out there to open up to their significant other about their kinks and desires, so yall can enjoy the kinky married life too. ❤
I also just want to say thank you for typing this out and telling my story a little bit. I want it to be known.
 

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Update: We have ordered all kinds of toys, and are even looking at a really nice hand-worked leather collar and cuff set for me on Etsy. We're now using the obedience app to help me remember things like my daily medications, as well as for other fun tasks like me sending @KpopPunkKink daily pictures and stuff. I actually forgot to take my meds this morning, so my "punishment" is that I'm now sleeping with a plug in all night. TBH its not really a punishment though LOL....but that's OK. The app will at least help him remind me and know to check in when I forget things like that....because I'm really bad about remembering my meds.

Still need to buy more rope, and maybe a flogger too (because we discovered that might be something we'd both enjoy while talking this evening).

We also made accounts on Uplust (basically slutty anything goes Instagram lol), and are actively posting there as well, so if you want to follow us there just go search for KpopSlut and you'll find me....and he's tagged in a lot of my posts. We will still post photo sets here (we ordered a ton of lingerie and are planning for more risqué shoots involving that and rope when we get it all together), but we are trying to post SOMETHING daily on Uplust and don't want to overwhelm the media albums here...plus there you can post videos. Lol

Anyways....I guess what I'm saying is the more open we are and the more we talk about our desires and fantasies, the more fun we are having. We've also talked a lot about consent and safe words and expectations, and I think those things are so important to. Ultimately, the more openly we communicate the better things seem to get and the more comfortable we are.

Just another reminder to not be afraid to share your kinks with the person you love. I know it's scary, but it was 100% absolutely worth the fear and nerves. I wish I'd told him all this a decade ago, before the tumor started growing. Then maybe we would have paid more attention to his loss of sex drive and they could have caught it so much sooner.

Oh well. We don't have a Tardis and can't go change the past...but that's okay because the present right now is pretty fucking awesome. ❤
 

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I wanted to post a thread here talking specifically about mine and @KpopPunkKink 's experiences, since I know there aren't many married couples on here exploring kink together. I figured this way, if someone ever joined the forum who was in a similar situation, they'd have our experiences to learn from.
Thank you both A LOT for sharing this story.

They started treating the tumor with medication to shrink it, and not too long ago his hormones started to normalize. He started wanting sex again...a LOT....Basically like going through a 2nd puberty. AND he wanted to cuddle, and kiss, and just be close. I honestly dont remember how long it had been since our last real kiss before the "first one" recently. I know it had been a long time.
Your story is so overwhelming and at this point it got me to tears. Wow.

I was TERRIFIED to tell him exactly how deep my kink exploration has gone. Words like "humiliation" and "exposure" and "pain" and "pictures on the internet" were so hard to say...but I laid it all out for him anyways because I wanted us to truly be on the same page.
I feel you. I was in the same situation a couple times and it's always pretty difficult to talk about things like this.

And his response has been nothing short of amazing. Not only has he been willing to explore with me....but he's done his own research and found things that HE WOULD like to try. If you asked me a year ago if I thought he'd take pictures of me tied up and post them on the internet I would have laughed at your face....but he's been so willing to explore my kinks right along with me, and has even found he also gets pleasure from a lot of them too....and that's just been huge for us. He's been open and honest with me about what he likes, doesnt like, and maybe wants to eventually try....and he's so much more confident than he ever was before. I believe a lot of that confidence comes from knowing I'm not going to judge him, but he could probably share more about that.
Amazing. I'm so happy for both of you.

Honestly @KpopPunkKink I hope you respond to this post and talk about how all of this has been for you, because it could help someone feel more comfortable sharing their kinks with their significant other after hearing it from your perspective.

Anyways, I guess what I'm trying to say is that we are still exploring and still learning, and we are in the very beginning stages of exploring kink TOGETHER.....but the big thing I've found so far is that open and honest communication has absolutely been the key. You really have to put yourself out there and take that chance, but it's so worth the risk. I'm SO GLAD I told him everything, and I'm so excited to see what the future has in store for us. 😊🥰
I sincerely hope it'll get even better in the future!

Also, if you used to like sex and you suddenly stop wanting it, please go to the doctor and don't be embarrassed to talk about it. Make sure you don’t have a brain tumor. lol 🤦🏻‍♀️😅
I sometimes wonder if I'm the other way around. I am so much into sex, it's almost like an addiction.

If you had told me last year, that I would be posting pictures of you in the internet, I would have laughed and thought you were joking. Now? I want to post your body everywhere for people to see what I see. I want people to want you, so I can have you. I never would have thought that this would be the case, I was so shy and reserved. Now my eyes are open, blindfolded maybe, but definitely open. Words cannot describe how grateful I truly am that you opened up to me, I never judged you for anything that you told me. I was mostly just confused, but very receptive. Communication can truly make a relationship, and it just made ours ten times stronger. I'm glad you told me, I'm glad my brain was so open, because if it wasn't for the hormone change I don't know what would have happened. Anyways, I'm so open to everything you have to share with me, ask me to do, or do to you. I'd choose no one else to be with.
Sometimes one sees better with eyes blindfolded.

So you're both switches, but not in your relationship?

I also just want to say thank you for typing this out and telling my story a little bit. I want it to be known.
:love:

Update: We have ordered all kinds of toys, and are even looking at a really nice hand-worked leather collar and cuff set for me on Etsy.
One can never have enough toys. And... I'm jealous. I want my very own collar too.

Still need to buy more rope, and maybe a flogger too (because we discovered that might be something we'd both enjoy while talking this evening).
You did try other spanking implements yet?

We also made accounts on Uplust (basically slutty anything goes Instagram lol), and are actively posting there as well, so if you want to follow us there just go search for KpopSlut and you'll find me....and he's tagged in a lot of my posts. We will still post photo sets here (we ordered a ton of lingerie and are planning for more risqué shoots involving that and rope when we get it all together), but we are trying to post SOMETHING daily on Uplust and don't want to overwhelm the media albums here...plus there you can post videos. Lol
Uplust? Noted. I will try that out.

Oh well. We don't have a Tardis and can't go change the past...but that's okay because the present right now is pretty fucking awesome. ❤
... and I hope it'll get even more awesome. I love you both, you're so inspiring.
 
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search for KpopSlut and you'll find me
I just registered there and I can't find you. :(

Also it's not nice that I need to choose either male or female... or couple.

Edit: Found you randomly with the tag bondage. I guess usernames are case sensitive...
 

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So you're both switches, but not in your relationship?
So I've always been more submissive. I can switch occasionally, but it's not my preference. I get sexual pleasure from pleasing my partner and making them feel good though, so if a partner wanted me to take control I could. I just don't enjoy it as much personally.

A lot of my kinks are more submissive. I fantasize about things being done to me, rather than be the one doing them to someone else. The more I talk about them, the more @KpopPunkKink imagines them, and he's finding that he REALLY likes the idea of them. Honestly I dont think there is one thing I've said that he hasn't liked the idea of. He literally wants to collar and leash me, and one of his "punishment" ideas is me under his desk cockwarming while he plays a game. I think it's safe to say he's comfortably falling into the more dominant role.

That being said, I also feel like if I ever wanted to take control he'd easily let me....because he ALSO gets sexual pleasure from pleasing others. Idk though....I kinda like it when he pulls my hair and spanks me. Idk if I'll ever want to switch, unless he does of course. You'd have to ask him. Lol

You did try other spanking implements yet?
Just his hand. We're hoping a simple leather flogger would be quieter (since its softer? idk), because we DO live with my parents and there is literally a hole cut in the bottom of our bedroom door so our cats can get in and out even when it's closed. The sound....travels. 🤣

I just registered there and I can't find you. :(

Also it's not nice that I need to choose either male or female... or couple.
I'll DM you a link to my profile in just a second....and yeah the gender options there are stupid. There are a lot of things I don't like about it, but I love that we can post short videos. 😅
 
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I fantasize about things being done to me, rather than be the one doing them to someone else.
That exactly the boat I'm in. While the BDSM test tells me I was 70% dominant and 68% sadist, I'm having pretty one sided fantasies: being abducted and made a sex slave, being blackmailed and pushed into a downwards spiral, being hypnotized and helpless in my own body, being restrained until immobile, being drugged. It's always me being on the receiving end. I'm pretty sure some of my fantasies are never to be made real as blackmail is only nice in fantasy, but well... The only thing which is one of my slightly dominant fantasies is being the tormenting slave for a cruel dominant person, responsible to carry out the punishments on behalf of them. I do like to inflict pain almost as much as I do like to receive it. But I fall pretty easy into sub space. All I need is the right mood (which is pretty commonplace) and the right words or actions.

Just his hand. We're hoping a simple leather flogger would be quieter (since its softer? idk), because we DO live with my parents and there is literally a hole cut in the bottom of our bedroom door so our cats can get in and out even when it's closed. The sound....travels. 🤣
Spanking is noisy and I am pretty sure leather straps on a body are very noisy.

I'll DM you a link to my profile in just a second....and yeah the gender options there are stupid. There are a lot of things I don't like about it, but I love that we can post short videos. 😅
I chose female, since there is a reason I have a female looking avatar. But I'm not quite comfortable with it. I guess I'll not be using this website very much, especially since you can only view a couple posts and need top pay to see more.
 

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Spanking is noisy and I am pretty sure leather straps on a body are very noisy
Yeah I know...but spanking with the hand is a deeper tone that reverberates more because the sound waves have a higher amplitude I guess? Idk. My hope is that a flogger will be a higher sound that doesn't reverberate as much.

I chose female, since there is a reason I have a female looking avatar. But I'm not quite comfortable with it. I guess I'll not be using this website very much, especially since you can only view a couple posts and need top pay to see more.
I actually didn't pay for my premium account. I sent in the verification photo and got verified, and they just gave me the premium account free for like 4 or 5 months. They didnt do that for @KpopPunkKink though, so idk what their criteria is for that. 🤷🏻‍♀️
 

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Yeah I know...but spanking with the hand is a deeper tone that reverberates more because the sound waves have a higher amplitude I guess? Idk. My hope is that a flogger will be a higher sound that doesn't reverberate as much.
A riding crop makes a very high pitched sound and the stinging pain is quite nice.

so idk what their criteria is for that. 🤷🏻‍♀️
If I had to make a guess, I'd say having boobs and a pussy, posting pictures of those.
 

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A riding crop makes a very high pitched sound and the stinging pain is quite nice.


If I had to make a guess, I'd say having boobs and a pussy, posting pictures of those.
I said it was because she's a woman
 

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If I had to make a guess, I'd say having boobs and a pussy, posting pictures of those.
Honestly this was my guess as well. There seem to be more "men" than "women" on the app in general (quotes because gender isn't binary but sadly that site treats it like it is), so maybe that's their way of trying to encourage their idea of "women" to stick around.

Like I said....not the best site....but I still like the idea of it even if it's not well executed.
 

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I wanted to post a thread ...
I know someone who had a craniopharyngioma. She didn't actually know it until her migraines suddenly became worse, lasted longer, etc. Then had a bunch of weird symptoms like some mashup episode of House. It's been handled (radiation) but, of course, her body hasn't been making any hormone in the right amount, so she's going through the process with the endo...who actually just doubled her estrogen so we'll see what happens there.

Anyway, I wanted to ask you how long it took for your husband to go from treatment to awesome-sex-life. And has his body been "trained" to produce the right amounts of hormones yet? Is that achievable, or do they end up having to take hormones the rest of their lives?

(I know my bio is blank **wont be for long)), i just found this site, registered, then your post was the first one I read and, obvs, it touched on a subject close to me)
 

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I know someone who had a craniopharyngioma. She didn't actually know it until her migraines suddenly became worse, lasted longer, etc. Then had a bunch of weird symptoms like some mashup episode of House. It's been handled (radiation) but, of course, her body hasn't been making any hormone in the right amount, so she's going through the process with the endo...who actually just doubled her estrogen so we'll see what happens there.

Anyway, I wanted to ask you how long it took for your husband to go from treatment to awesome-sex-life. And has his body been "trained" to produce the right amounts of hormones yet? Is that achievable, or do they end up having to take hormones the rest of their lives?

(I know my bio is blank **wont be for long)), i just found this site, registered, then your post was the first one I read and, obvs, it touched on a subject close to me)
So hubby has been on his medication for about 3 months now, and his hormones started normalizing about a month after. They haven't actually done any kind of supplementation. His testosterone isn't as high as it SHOULD be, but it is consistently going up and the hope is with time it will fully normalize.

His tumor is one that directly secretes the female hormone prolactin, and indirectly stops the production of testosterone... so the medication he's on prevents the production of prolactin which shrinks the tumor, which indirectly starts the production of testosterone again. Every kind of tumor is different, and every medication works differently.
 
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