New to DDLG.

littleone99

Kinky Newbie
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Jan 12, 2021
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Hi there,

I’m new to DD/lg. I was wondering if there were any littles to help educate me better. I thought I was a sub and liked having a “Sir” but after talking to my dom more about it and researching, we found that DD/lg suited us better - and we are starting our rules, punishments and rewards from start to suit us. I was wondering if there were anything that helped you with finding punishments, I will admit that I can be a brat sometimes, and I don’t really like punishments, but I want to try and be better in terms of personal growth within the dynamic.

I’m not entirely sure if that makes sense but thank you.
 

poetrylover828

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Aug 19, 2017
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Well first if you don’t like/want punishments you don’t need them. You can work on a reward only system and find ways to adjust goals to be able to get your rewards. It might be more of a “this is consistently one I am not fulfilling what I agreed to do why?” And figure out what needs to change.

But if you want punishment as part of it then the point is you don’t like what happens. Be sure you talk out things that are absolutely no even for a punishment. You can still have limits for punishments and the like.
 

littleone99

Kinky Newbie
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Jan 12, 2021
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Well first if you don’t like/want punishments you don’t need them. You can work on a reward only system and find ways to adjust goals to be able to get your rewards. It might be more of a “this is consistently one I am not fulfilling what I agreed to do why?” And figure out what needs to change.

But if you want punishment as part of it then the point is you don’t like what happens. Be sure you talk out things that are absolutely no even for a punishment. You can still have limits for punishments and the like.
Thank you for your reply. I will have a look at a reward system only as well and see if that benefits me better.
 

poetrylover828

<<::: Verified :::>> Panda ʕ •ᴥ•ʔ
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Aug 19, 2017
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Definitely keep researching and seeing what others have done as that can help you figure out ideas of what you might want to try.
 

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