@ AlienMindsInc: I really find it funny that most of your arguments to prove that since an online relationship can?t work for you then it can?t for the rest of the world contains expressions such as ?Personally?, ?to me?, ?I believe?, etc. What I find much less funny is that in 2 of your posts you use me or some things I?ve posted in this thread without even knowing me, my past experiences & current relationship. I would greatly appreciate that if you want to convince me, at least, that you stick to stuff you really know for a fact in order to prove that YOUR truth is THE truth. Otherwise your arguments are just a big balloon of hot air to me?
Of course there?s a need for a real component. The only thing is what?s a real component to one will not be for someone else or will manifest in different ways. Face-to-face may be essential to you. It?s not to me. End of.
All I can say is? wow! Do you really believe that everyone are the same?? What makes you think you know better than eveyone what comes first & what is secondary in ALL relationships?
When I say that expectations are just as important to me here?s an example of what I mean: When I first started seeking online I knew already that I was looking for something that transcend the sexual aspect of D/s. To me, meeting online 2-3 times a week just for play just doesn?t cut it. I does absolutely nothing for me. But there are a large number of people who wants it that way & that?s fine. I meant that it is important to seek someone who has similar expectations & to make them clear from the start when you meet with another person otherwise it?s a waste of time for both parties. And as far personality go I was talking about compatibilty & shared interests & goals. Somehow I have this funny idea that being compatible & having common interests & goals can help make a relationship work & puts these things in my priorities. Need I repeat again that people can be different from one another?
I dunno who needs more professional attention here?
No but seriously I find this first statement absurd & utterly judgmental & disrespectful. And once again made out of no valid information about me?
So once again, please, try to keep in mind that your beliefs & opinions are nothing but that. I have no problem with anyone saying that online relationships are difficult to be taken seriously or superficial in most cases because it?s true, I do however have a HUGE problem with closed-mindedness, generalized statements & judgmental opinions no matter what the subject is.
AlienMindsInc said:I still believe that online relationships without a real component cannot work.
Of course there?s a need for a real component. The only thing is what?s a real component to one will not be for someone else or will manifest in different ways. Face-to-face may be essential to you. It?s not to me. End of.
AlienMindsInc said:Next, I'm not saying that personality and expectations are unimportant, I'm saying they are secondary to trust and honesty, in all relationships.
All I can say is? wow! Do you really believe that everyone are the same?? What makes you think you know better than eveyone what comes first & what is secondary in ALL relationships?
When I say that expectations are just as important to me here?s an example of what I mean: When I first started seeking online I knew already that I was looking for something that transcend the sexual aspect of D/s. To me, meeting online 2-3 times a week just for play just doesn?t cut it. I does absolutely nothing for me. But there are a large number of people who wants it that way & that?s fine. I meant that it is important to seek someone who has similar expectations & to make them clear from the start when you meet with another person otherwise it?s a waste of time for both parties. And as far personality go I was talking about compatibilty & shared interests & goals. Somehow I have this funny idea that being compatible & having common interests & goals can help make a relationship work & puts these things in my priorities. Need I repeat again that people can be different from one another?
AlienMindsInc said:. If your needs are satisfied by a little white square with black text, there is a serious problem, and you need serious psychiatric attention.
AlienMindsInc said:Maybe I'm just a cynical bastard, but I believe all people are liars and thieves waiting to strike and hurt you the best they can.
I dunno who needs more professional attention here?
No but seriously I find this first statement absurd & utterly judgmental & disrespectful. And once again made out of no valid information about me?
So once again, please, try to keep in mind that your beliefs & opinions are nothing but that. I have no problem with anyone saying that online relationships are difficult to be taken seriously or superficial in most cases because it?s true, I do however have a HUGE problem with closed-mindedness, generalized statements & judgmental opinions no matter what the subject is.