But, do you not think that a “vetting “ process or some entrance questions might be a good idea?
There is the opportunity to 'vet' yourself through the forum of verification. I think its important to consider that some people may have reasons for not wanting to go through this - for example someone may hope to become a lawyer or someone may be a semi professional athlete looking to turn pro. I think because there is no pressure to post anything you can choose who you message and ensure theyre verified, but I do understand what you're saying, I'm just not sure how it could be managed.
I specifically disagree. I think people who have never done this and are looking to for the first time should (and are meant to) be just as welcome here as anyone else.
There is the personal verification process you can do to verify you on the forum.
Really???? I am not sureI agree. But, as a per who came up in punk communities where kink was highly accepted, I might be a bit biased. I have been sub oriented for as long as I can remember. I still think my points are valid. However, I digress.
Aye….. I also see your point. Sorry for the typos. I also sincerely appreciate those willing to acknowledge that this is problematic. Even if you don’t agree with my proposed solutions. Maybe, a pinned list of safety precautions for Subs? What else could we do??
What you are saying is accurate. A predator will find their way into anything if experienced. And, the questions shouldn’t be too hard or kink shame in any manner. It’s ok to be new to the scene. Instead, I m suggesting maybe simple and obvious questions. That’s specifically for people who don’t know terminology like CNC etc. They could accidentally fail, but not be a bad person. Like I said somewhere else in this thread, maybe a pinned safety explanation for both Doms and Subs. And, a super obvious protocol also pinned or part of a consent agreement upon site entry?? These are just suggestionsThere is the personal verification process you can do to verify you on the forum.
Verify Me
This is the thread to alert the mods that your PRIVATE album containing verifying photos is up. Post a PRIVATE (so only the admins and mods can see it) album that contains at least two pictures of you holding a handwritten (not printed) sign that includes: 1. Your exact Kink Talk username 2...www.kinktalk.com
That's this one. But not verified doesn't mean they are not sincere and verified account doesn't mean they are completely safe.
I think a set of entrance question is good, but it also rises the question of how hard you want it to be?
There have been naive girl here where I tried to answer questions and hopefully point her in the right direction, when I first join I am no better then them besides knowing consent is the most important thing. There is no away the past me can pass a hard set of questions. I still don't know the correct technique for chocking play and I was never into it until now. So if that is in the question I am certainly going to fail. It is not good to set the bar too high and turn away potential new people , not give them good advice. Kinky is fun but also dangerous. It's better for them to get good advice then turn them away and have them learn whatever they can find.
On the other hand, an experienced predator who is determined to exploit innocent others will be experienced enough and hide himself behind the set of hard questions. Now you give him an extra layer of false verification that he "passed the test so he must know his things". This is also very dangerous. Because this badge of "pass the test" it would be harder to discredit him when he brings up bad ideas and dangerous tasks. It's already hard at this point when arguing with others on forum regarding sub safety here.
And there is also what kinks are you going to cover and what you want to focus at? Are you going to identify who is the "real dom" by specific questions related to specific kinks? I mentioned before I am not into chocking so I know nothing about it. Same with femdom and anything male submissive related. If Those are the only questions I get, does it really reflect on how good a dom I have?
But those are already here, you are just not looking for them. Here are some examples. There are more that aren't pinned but you can still find.
So, maybe……. One shouldn’t have to “look” for them?????But those are already here, you are just not looking for them. Here are some examples. There are more that aren't pinned but you can still find.
Master/slave relationships - Getting started 101
As the title suggest, this thread is intended for those who are new into this lifestyle or at searching for partners online although this thread can (hopefully!) be helpful to the not-so-new as well. For the past year I have been a regular member on getDare & then since last April on here as...www.kinktalk.com
DO NOT include ID with photos or posts
I am posting this as a sticky for those that somehow seem to have missed this in the rules and other announcements. We have had a recent spate of people posting photo sets that include real ID, most often drivers licenses or even passports. THIS IS STRICTLY PROHIBITED and will earn you a...www.kinktalk.com
Internet Safety
This has been copied form getdare, because i was asked to put it on here. So some of it applies more readerly to there. After talking to a load of people in chat and other friends I have become increasingly aware just how many younger people (12+) are on getdare and other chat rooms/forums. I...www.kinktalk.com
For the last one some of the external links are outdated but you can still find useful ones.Resource: BDSM Website Links
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They are alreay here in forum and as pinned post. You cannot really force anyone to read them if they don't want to.
I am not sure what you mean by don't need to "look"
Again, as I stated in the intro to this thread, this site has come to my attention for personal and very specific reasons. I submit these concerns and ideas as a long twrm sub for all of your consideration. It is totally up to you how to feel or think about it. I simply want a safe community for those of us who practice various orientations. I would never attempt to police anyone’s sexuality. That is not my intention.
