This isn't something I keep track of, people come and go and although some say they are trying to go kink free most of the time they seem to come back.
As for those I lose contact with, who knows?
As for those I lose contact with, who knows?
I test your remarkable patience yet with one question. Gays and lesbians march in Pride parades, trying to convert what once was a shameful secret into something that one can publicly admit with pride. (Though the vast majority of gays in the world still stay in the closet, if the statistics findable with Google searches are to be trusted.)
This has been a most fruitful discussion. Lamentably we were unable to clarify a couple of interesting and relevant points. Namely, how common statistically is among kinky people:
The movie was a huge hit among women, and I witnessed this also in my social surroundings. My interpretation of it back then was the same theory, with which I unsuccessfully opened this discussion: women saw in the movie the hope of finding something more to spice up their boring sex lives. The 50+ % of women who seldom orgasm in ordinary sex, if they ever have in life. The motive being not getting much of their current ordinary sex life, and therefore being curious about what is described in the movie. Not because of primary interest in the stuff itself, but because of poor satisfaction with what they currently have. They saw hope in the female sexual emotions described in the movie, and were ready to ignore the fact that it was produced with very unusual methods. That is why women liked the movie: it is women who are bored with their current sex lives. In fact, sex generally.Ten or so years ago when the first 50 Shades book took off something interesting happened. While the book itself and subsequent movie was rubbish from the kink bdsm perspective what it did do was send a flurry of people, mostly women searching online for sites like this.
Is it equally popular to be dominant or submissive? Is there an approximately balanced ratio between those?As for the gender ratio, online it is very skewed male over female
Impossible to answer properly due to the huge numbers of scammer Domme accounts. These are often bots so they ruin any kind of statistical analysis.Is it equally popular to be dominant or submissive? Is there an approximately balanced ratio between those?
Would you describe this as a matter of orientation, not enough people are "natural doms", or a matter of skills and confidence: it is not easy technically to do the job well, nor a light decision to take such responsibility for other people?there always seems to be way more subs seeking doms than can be supplied.
I tried to find the typical or average duration of a BDSM session by the Google method, without remarkable luck. But I landed on a page that made a surprising yet familiar statement:
You seam very obsessed with the idea that women hate their sex life in general ... Can you provide the study that shows your 50%+ claim? I know btw the cases you describe exist but from my experience we are nowhere near 50%, and for most women I know that could not orgasm at all (in my experience caused mainly from parents demonising masturbation) they do orgasm once they get older.[...]The 50+ % of women who seldom orgasm in ordinary sex, if they ever have in life. The motive being not getting much of their current ordinary sex life, and therefore being curious about what is described in the movie. [...]
Not "in general". A significant minority of women are absolutely obsessed with sex. I wrote in Google "how many percent of women orgasm in sex", and this is the first link that Google gives:You seam very obsessed with the idea that women hate their sex life in general ... Can you provide the study that shows your 50%+ claim?
Which reason led you to try BDSM or other kinky sex for the first time ever?
It would be great if you also mention your gender -- as some of these reasons might be more typical for men than women, or vice versa.
One more question:
How about you, Merlin, any insight on this one more question:
Sex is typically between 2 people that agreed to have sex ... often there can be love and other times not... i am pretty sure married people statistically have more sex than unmarried ones. Do they all love each other? unlikely.How about you, Merlin, any insight on this one more question:
Ordinary sex is typically between two partners in a committed love relationship. There are exceptions, of course, both casual and commercial, but they are the minority.
How about kinky sex? A "dom seeking more subs" is not a committed love relationship scenario. Is it typically a commercial arrangement, where the dom takes money for the services to subs?
How typical is it that kinky sex happens between persons who are not in a committed love relationship with each other, dating and planning a possible future together? (And the opposite of this question: how much of kinky sex happens between the partners in a committed love relationship?)