Well there is awful lot of discussion about identity lately, how to prove it, how much to expose about yourself and its kind of created an identity crisis.
So really this is in two parts, proving who you are to ensure you can build trust and how much to expose of yourself on this type of site.
So second part first, I am more than happy to include face pics of myself but not to share other info like real name, address, work place etc. I figure the face pic is fairly safe, I mean its not like a passport ID photo just something that shows me so folks know what I look like. If someone does recognise me so what? They are also looking at (as a minimum) kink sites so what do they do, say "Hey I see you're a member of kinktalk." which tells me they are too and I have another friend in kink. Or they don't want to reveal themselves so say nothing, either way it's no big deal. So for me, in the long run face pics with no nudity are pretty safe really. Including your face in a nude pic is something else again, once you hit send or upload its out there and no amount of begging or pleading can assure you its been deleted. Hell I've seen whole blogs devoted to guys who buy up used thumb drives and recover the data just on the off chance they might find some private nudes. Not to mention the very helpful feature on most phones and tablets that sync your pics to your cloud accounts, digital pics are all but impossible to kill so be really careful how you handle them and who you trust them to.
Next, proving who you are, specifically are you a girl or guy as it says in your profile? Maybe its just my experience (age lol) but show me a decent photo of a hand holding a note (date, name maybe) and 95% of the time I can guess girl or guy. However my thought is if you are starting to doubt your online partners sex and feel the need for them to prove it, its already too late. You've lost trust, if they are genuine chances are they will be insulted by the request for proof and if they aren't they could still fake it if they are determined enough. Move on. I have found often that if you chat for a while and start to get on well most sub gals will offer to send you pics, partly I think this is the natural need subs have to please but also there is a degree of vanity too, they want to know you like them.
So what are your thoughts on either topic? I know there are very divided views, Doms who demand proof up front so they "don't waste their time", subs who declare "no photos ever" and these are the extremes at either end. Where do you sit?
So really this is in two parts, proving who you are to ensure you can build trust and how much to expose of yourself on this type of site.
So second part first, I am more than happy to include face pics of myself but not to share other info like real name, address, work place etc. I figure the face pic is fairly safe, I mean its not like a passport ID photo just something that shows me so folks know what I look like. If someone does recognise me so what? They are also looking at (as a minimum) kink sites so what do they do, say "Hey I see you're a member of kinktalk." which tells me they are too and I have another friend in kink. Or they don't want to reveal themselves so say nothing, either way it's no big deal. So for me, in the long run face pics with no nudity are pretty safe really. Including your face in a nude pic is something else again, once you hit send or upload its out there and no amount of begging or pleading can assure you its been deleted. Hell I've seen whole blogs devoted to guys who buy up used thumb drives and recover the data just on the off chance they might find some private nudes. Not to mention the very helpful feature on most phones and tablets that sync your pics to your cloud accounts, digital pics are all but impossible to kill so be really careful how you handle them and who you trust them to.
Next, proving who you are, specifically are you a girl or guy as it says in your profile? Maybe its just my experience (age lol) but show me a decent photo of a hand holding a note (date, name maybe) and 95% of the time I can guess girl or guy. However my thought is if you are starting to doubt your online partners sex and feel the need for them to prove it, its already too late. You've lost trust, if they are genuine chances are they will be insulted by the request for proof and if they aren't they could still fake it if they are determined enough. Move on. I have found often that if you chat for a while and start to get on well most sub gals will offer to send you pics, partly I think this is the natural need subs have to please but also there is a degree of vanity too, they want to know you like them.
So what are your thoughts on either topic? I know there are very divided views, Doms who demand proof up front so they "don't waste their time", subs who declare "no photos ever" and these are the extremes at either end. Where do you sit?