I'm sure I'm the 100th person to ask this question. I won't go into a huge background story. Cliff notes: married 15 years. I'm 35. She was abused for almost a year by her moms boyfriend at the age of 12. I played the nice guy for about 3 years of dating and 10 years of marriage before I really made a huge stink about our lack of a sexual relationship that had any semblance of being satisfying. I have a very high sex drive and I'm a kinky guy. Most of you would consider me tame sure. We were also both very religious and she still is. I went through a phase when I gave up on religion and also on my marriage and got really selfish. But I found myself. And I learned to be ok with who I am and have even found a bit of religion again that now makes sense. Most importantly I have discovered this newfound freedom called honesty. Who would have thought it? The truth shall set you free! Unfortunately, it may be at the expense of my poor wife who now has to deal with bouts of confession time almost once a week when she learns something new about me. Last week it was telling her that I would prefer an open relationship. It was hard but I held firm and didn't turn back into mr nice guy. I simply said she had misconceptions about what it was based on media and religious bias. I also told her it was my desire, but my commitment to her was more important than my desire. One of my kinks is swapping, gangbangs, threesomes, etc. and I am NOT the jealous type. If she told me she won't be happy unless we introduce others into the bedroom or even full on relationships then I'd do whatever to make her happy. But as for bedroom kink in general she really has a hard time even talking about vanilla sex out loud. But I fear one of these days while we are having sex I'm going to lose it, pin her to the ground, slap her around, fist her pussy, while she chokes on my cock and my balls are smacking her pretty little face. LMAO There is a Lion inside me who has been trapped in a cage for far too long!!
So this is my thought. I once gave her a book about how to please your spouse in the bedroom after telling her how important our sex life was to me. She never cracked the cover. It became a contentious thing because I had cracked all sorts of books about relationships that she wanted me to. Anyways, I think she would be down for rougher sex. She seems to get more turned on when I get a little rougher and harder. I honestly think if I could get her to see that it wasn't wrong and it was an amazing act of love and she could set limits and trust me to take care of her, etc. I'd like to start with a book. Something that I can give her and say, remember when I said I had kinky thoughts that you never seem to want to talk about. Will you just read this and let me know what you think? Or we can read it together. But this is what I am into. Something that really explains submission and the beauty. I think it could be the trick to making my marriage work. Rebuilding that trust and at the same time help my wife finally understand me a little better. Videos would be nice too. She doesn't watch porn so maybe something softcore or a movie that is more geared towards women. She is religiously against porn. But I am not and watch it a couple times a week. Love this website!!
So this is my thought. I once gave her a book about how to please your spouse in the bedroom after telling her how important our sex life was to me. She never cracked the cover. It became a contentious thing because I had cracked all sorts of books about relationships that she wanted me to. Anyways, I think she would be down for rougher sex. She seems to get more turned on when I get a little rougher and harder. I honestly think if I could get her to see that it wasn't wrong and it was an amazing act of love and she could set limits and trust me to take care of her, etc. I'd like to start with a book. Something that I can give her and say, remember when I said I had kinky thoughts that you never seem to want to talk about. Will you just read this and let me know what you think? Or we can read it together. But this is what I am into. Something that really explains submission and the beauty. I think it could be the trick to making my marriage work. Rebuilding that trust and at the same time help my wife finally understand me a little better. Videos would be nice too. She doesn't watch porn so maybe something softcore or a movie that is more geared towards women. She is religiously against porn. But I am not and watch it a couple times a week. Love this website!!