Since I came back and became active again on Kink Talk I have received quite a few PMs. Some of them have been from people (mostly males) asking me for help in finding a partner. While I can't hold everyone's hand and do everyone's work here I still can give a few pointers as to what not to do.
Don't know what I'm talking about? That's okay, I'll get to the point with an example of a message I received earlier today:
This is a sad example of the "other kind" of messages I have been receiving this past month.
Here's something to ponder about basic online etiquette: when you don't know what to say ask yourself "would I do/say this in person". If the answer is no then don't do it. As shocking as this may sound women on kink sites are not here to serve as your personal fetish delivery systems. Of course, that is unless that person has give you explicit consent that it is okay to treat them as such. But otherwise don't assume that it is going to make a stellar impression.
So if barging in women's inboxes dick first isn't the right way to do it then how do I approach them you may be wondering... Well, how about introducing yourself? Ask some questions. Women enjoy that sort of stuff, even kinky ones. Try to sound intelligent and, as much as possible avoid chat speak. This is going to impress some of us I assure you.
In short, try to act like a normal human being trying to connect with another human being.
Don't know what I'm talking about? That's okay, I'll get to the point with an example of a message I received earlier today:
Do you send pics on kik? Wanna be my little slut toy? My submissive bitch? Kik me ....
This is a sad example of the "other kind" of messages I have been receiving this past month.
Here's something to ponder about basic online etiquette: when you don't know what to say ask yourself "would I do/say this in person". If the answer is no then don't do it. As shocking as this may sound women on kink sites are not here to serve as your personal fetish delivery systems. Of course, that is unless that person has give you explicit consent that it is okay to treat them as such. But otherwise don't assume that it is going to make a stellar impression.
So if barging in women's inboxes dick first isn't the right way to do it then how do I approach them you may be wondering... Well, how about introducing yourself? Ask some questions. Women enjoy that sort of stuff, even kinky ones. Try to sound intelligent and, as much as possible avoid chat speak. This is going to impress some of us I assure you.
In short, try to act like a normal human being trying to connect with another human being.