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I am trying to find the best way to start being a sub (as described in your what is question) to my partner she has agreed when we talk about it but as yet not acted on it. What suggestions do you have to kick start this??
Kinky relationships seem to have a lot of ups and downs. There are periods where she will grab control for weeks and become a demanding bitch of ruthless pain and fear. Things will suddenly then go back to normal for a few weeks and our dynamic will be similar to before we became kinky. A few weeks after, the cycle will repeat again.
Is this sort of pattern normal? Is there a better way to balance things?
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The last day of classes was a last friday, so of course there was the usual party shenanigans going on.. That night myself and a bunch of friends went bar hopping for a while. Now, One of the girls with us was extremely good looking, and quite a flirt. For the most part I tend to ignore that type of person if I am looking to hook up, but it raised a question in my mind that I feel you may be able to help answer, at least in part. How can you tell if a girl is being flirtatious solely to be a tease, or if she is actually interested? I can make educated guesses, but is there a definite way to tell?
Excuse me if I am wrong, but you say that like you have good experience.. which leads me to my next question - Is there an un-awkward way of excusing yourself and leaving, the morning after a hookup?
if you go on a first date with a girl to the movies and she doesnt give you a kiss goodnight what does it mean?
It may be silly but oh well.
I often struggle to strike up a conversation with random people/girls, it get's asked and you read about it a lot but it always seems to be very generic and stupid.
Where is the best place to meet women? Lots of times you get coffee shops, supermarkets, libraries etc, but where are women most in the frame of mind to meet new people or where do they go if they want to meet people?
Women rarely initiate a conversation but what is the best way to start a conversation that isn't going to be completely creepy? I generally don't talk to randoms unless I feel I have a reason for it, like if they left their wallet on the counter I'd tell them but if it was just to say hi, I'd feel silly. So what is the best way to go about that.
Just because you don't get a good night kiss, doesn't neccesarily mean the girl's not that into you. Sometimes on a first date a girl may not want to kiss a guy right away. This could be because she's prude, conservative, or just not in the mood that night. Unfortunately (atleast for girls between the ages of 18-30) the more realistic scenario is that she's just not really into you! Girls if interested will often give some soft of jesture, if not a kiss that they are interested in more with you. A sure sign that she is not interested if she books it inside at the end of the night.
However this is not the end of the world either. Just because a girl isn't into you at the moment doesnt mean she never will be. Confidence and charm can get a guy a long way, evern after being shut down.
And that's the dailey dose.
Don't be shy, if she's sitting at the bar or hanging around, just be honest. Tell her that you think she looks stunning tonight, and you'de really love to buy her a drink. If you're out with friends, or at a party, don't be shy to just litterally sit down and introduce yourself, straight up.
Totally agree that confidence and honesty goes a lot further with me than some cheesy pick up lines. I think its a reflection of a guy's confidence for them to just walk up and be that direct. Plus, I love getting complements with good eye contact.
Plus I have to say from experience, that even a lack of confidence can be fine as long as you're honest. I've asked a girl out when totally terrified, but she saw that was the case and felt more flattered that I spoke to her when overcoming the nerves
You gave some good advise on the "how to find/meet someone special" topic, so hopefully you'll be able to help here.
What would you recommend with regards to asking out someone who is currently a friend. It's the typical chick-flick scenario of not wanting to ruin a friendship or make it awkward. She's not one of my closest friends, but still close enough to not want to lose it.