Hello All,
I know many of you may not be interested in this, and I don't claim to be an incredibly active member of this site, but I do still care for this community and am worried by somethings.
I'm sure many of you have noticed that so many people on this site or not a part of the community at all have this idea that a sub is weak and unassertive, and that a Dom is all powerful and must be obeyed. Apart from the serious health risks this genuine mentality can bring about (when play is done), it also concerns me as it gives people a false impression of what the fetish is like, and how those that have it are like.
I know BDSM is simply a fetish, and I'm not trying to assert people have to agree with it, however, I am concerned that things like "50 Shades of Grey" are tasked with showing how it "really is".
It's very important the equal respect and in many cases love that drives a sub to do anything they can to please their dom, or leads a dom to want to protect and watch over a sub is put at the forefront of our community.
I just don't really know of many places where you can go to in order to try and promote the truth behind BDSM, so if anyone has any websites, groups, or anything else which tries to do that they could share, I'd be very greatful.
I guess my point is, I care about this community very much, and I get worried about all the people feeling entitled to a sub (I'm sure many of us have gotten THAT pm), or Subs claiming to have "no limits" and claiming they want to give everything up for their dom, when in fact they are very new. Both for the health of those people which may get injured or killed for such over ambition, and for the idea it gives those outside of the community. And I'd really appreciate if anyone could help me attempt in inform people about it.
Thank You.
I know many of you may not be interested in this, and I don't claim to be an incredibly active member of this site, but I do still care for this community and am worried by somethings.
I'm sure many of you have noticed that so many people on this site or not a part of the community at all have this idea that a sub is weak and unassertive, and that a Dom is all powerful and must be obeyed. Apart from the serious health risks this genuine mentality can bring about (when play is done), it also concerns me as it gives people a false impression of what the fetish is like, and how those that have it are like.
I know BDSM is simply a fetish, and I'm not trying to assert people have to agree with it, however, I am concerned that things like "50 Shades of Grey" are tasked with showing how it "really is".
It's very important the equal respect and in many cases love that drives a sub to do anything they can to please their dom, or leads a dom to want to protect and watch over a sub is put at the forefront of our community.
I just don't really know of many places where you can go to in order to try and promote the truth behind BDSM, so if anyone has any websites, groups, or anything else which tries to do that they could share, I'd be very greatful.
I guess my point is, I care about this community very much, and I get worried about all the people feeling entitled to a sub (I'm sure many of us have gotten THAT pm), or Subs claiming to have "no limits" and claiming they want to give everything up for their dom, when in fact they are very new. Both for the health of those people which may get injured or killed for such over ambition, and for the idea it gives those outside of the community. And I'd really appreciate if anyone could help me attempt in inform people about it.
Thank You.