Again, everyone agrees to it doesn't mean it is correct. They could be just not bothered to point it out on those website.
On the other hand, those are fine details that matters a lot. In my opinion, it would be a good thing if anyone "made a fuss about it". This is kinda where you shines and show everyone what you really mean and your understanding about the kinky play, so genuine girls would reply to you. The problem is not when people called you out, the problem is when you are given a perfect chance to explain yourself, you choose the most immature way to deal with it.
That's what I have done and that's how I have the girls I am talking with now. Show them the real talk beneath the play talk.
True there will be girls be attracted to play talk, but usually they won't stick. If you want long term fun, then talk with someone properly and see if you can build some connections.
