I've been dating my current girlfriend for four years and we just started living together just this last year.
When we started dating both my girlfriend and I were both average size. The last two years my girlfriend has been slowly gaining weight. She eats terribly and I've never been able to get her to exercise with me. I love her very much and although her health has bothered me for some time I never pushed it as I thought maybe eventually she would kinda gravitate towards a healthier lifestyle.
Last night things changed for me. It's hard to write this because I love her so very much and can't imagine life without her. We were having sex and I was in bed while she was getting undressed. I'd never noticed it before but from the side I could see her tummy bulging out quite a bit. I was very unattracted by this. I found it disgusting.
I love my girlfriend and don't know how best to attack this and I can't really ignore it because I want to still be sexually attracted to her. What frustrates me is that she refuses to go running or walking with me (she is always too tired from work), she eats food late at night, and is obsessed with fast food and eating out. I don't feel like it's too much to ask her to just exercise and stop eating shitty (especially because I am very careful about what I eat, and I exercise regularly).
Is there a kind and thoughtful way I can bring the issue up or is it pointless. I know she is insecure about her body (even though until recently she was in good shape) and I would hate to make her insecurity worse by saying the wrong thing. I feel like if I were to gain a bunch of weight so that she found me unattractive it would be fair of her to ask the same thing of me.
Reading this I realize I sound really shallow but I think this could be a real problem for our sex life. Can anyone think of any advice that might help me out in this situation?
When we started dating both my girlfriend and I were both average size. The last two years my girlfriend has been slowly gaining weight. She eats terribly and I've never been able to get her to exercise with me. I love her very much and although her health has bothered me for some time I never pushed it as I thought maybe eventually she would kinda gravitate towards a healthier lifestyle.
Last night things changed for me. It's hard to write this because I love her so very much and can't imagine life without her. We were having sex and I was in bed while she was getting undressed. I'd never noticed it before but from the side I could see her tummy bulging out quite a bit. I was very unattracted by this. I found it disgusting.
I love my girlfriend and don't know how best to attack this and I can't really ignore it because I want to still be sexually attracted to her. What frustrates me is that she refuses to go running or walking with me (she is always too tired from work), she eats food late at night, and is obsessed with fast food and eating out. I don't feel like it's too much to ask her to just exercise and stop eating shitty (especially because I am very careful about what I eat, and I exercise regularly).
Is there a kind and thoughtful way I can bring the issue up or is it pointless. I know she is insecure about her body (even though until recently she was in good shape) and I would hate to make her insecurity worse by saying the wrong thing. I feel like if I were to gain a bunch of weight so that she found me unattractive it would be fair of her to ask the same thing of me.
Reading this I realize I sound really shallow but I think this could be a real problem for our sex life. Can anyone think of any advice that might help me out in this situation?
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