Can use your assistance, please

[livilou]

I'm very new to this and am trying to talk my husband into trying. Since he isn't big on reading I was hoping that there was a DVD that will give him an idea of what I'm looking for.

I know he tried looking this up one day and all he found was sites that showed very hardcore BDSM. That isn't what I want, nor what he would be willing to try. Is there anything that has some kind of story with slight bondage, spanking, orgasm denial, and maybe some clamps?

Any help would be greatly appreciated!

 

[BamaSwitch]

Just a quick search and I found this one -

http://cuntinglinguist.com/2006/05/bondage-for-beginners-part-one-what-you-need.html

If this isn't what you are looking for, drop me a note and I'll try help you out.

It might help to know which one of is the dominant partner. Or do you know enough yet to know which role either of you wants? You may really want to try both of you taking charge and the other submitting. I've found that it isn't unusual for someone to thing they would prefer it one way but actually enjoy it more the other.

Hope this helps.

 

[LadyM]

I suggest you take a look at Fetlife.com !

It is a huge community of alternative players with something for everyone who isn't "vanilla.

You can find educational groups along with groups in your area.

There are tons of books addressing Female Domination. I suggest:

Female Dominance by Claudia Verrin and The Mistress Manual by Mistress Loreli.

One of the best ways to learn new techniques is through your local BDSM club. These clubs are private and often offer technique seminars!

Good luck!

 

[UnBr0k3nH3r0]

First off do you want to be the Submissive or Domme? Or are you just looking to spice up the bedroom?

 

[livilou]

I would be the sub. Sorry for not stating that earlier.

 

[livilou]

Dear BamaSwith,

I appreciate the link you sent, but to get my husband to read something would almost take an act of congress. He's never been into reading. I'm the reader in the family. I will look at the link you posted, it's one I missed while doing research. Thank you.

I really do want to be the sub. I seem to enjoy it more, but on occasion, I do plan on dominating him (if for no other reason than to give him some ideas), I'm just not comfortable with that role.

Just a quick search and I found this one -

http://cuntinglinguist.com/2006/05/bondage-for-beginners-part-one-what-you-need.html

If this isn't what you are looking for, drop me a note and I'll try help you out.

It might help to know which one of is the dominant partner. Or do you know enough yet to know which role either of you wants? You may really want to try both of you taking charge and the other submitting. I've found that it isn't unusual for someone to thing they would prefer it one way but actually enjoy it more the other.

Hope this helps.

 

[shadowice0823]

if your wanting him to try certain stuff maybe find some porn on it and watch it and make the subtle comments, while watching with him such as that looks like fun, i wish you would do that to me, etc. Let him know it excites you, and its very likely hed be into finding out more about it to make you happy and who knows he may really enjoy it and not have known anything about it.

 

[livilou]

That's actually what I'm trying to do. We're having our 28th anniversary in a couple of weeks and I've placed him in charge of what we do, instead of me planning everything like normal. I point blank told him that I would not make any decisions concerning this.

A couple of years ago, he used to be a lot more dominate than he is now but something happened that all but destroyed his confidence. Since that time, I've had to be in charge of everything. I hate it!

I know I'm a strong woman, have known that for a while. But now I don't have any time to be weak. I've had to be strong for him and he's gotten comfortable with it. Too comfortable.

I realize this has nothing to do with what I'm asking and I was trying to start this before things went bad, but I let it slide. Plus, I just needed someone to talk to I guess.