help train 23f as a sub

[little_lucy]

hi, i’m new here but i wanna be the best sub possible…i’m wanting to know if anyone would mind just training me? if that’s not okay please lmk! thank you

 

[dobbo417]

Got Skype?

 

[little_lucy]

i do not i was hoping it could be done through messages…as i’m not comfortable with pictures and videos

 

[Youwillcallmesir.]

A good little exercise to start would be a quick brainstorm on things you like,dislike and then the things that are a no no. Helps people who read your posts to filter out those that straight away are not suitable for their chosen style of play. Got any other questions fire away, if not me another helpfull person will chime in.

Good luck

 

[subzzzero]

So before all the ones who prey on newbies show up claiming to “train” you.

Tip one. Dont fall for people who refer to themselves as a Title role they have yet to earn with you. That’s not how kink works. Check out some references some local munches or meets if you’re ok with in person. Maybe find a same gender same role mentor to help Look out for you. Ask specific questions all kinds of questions and get many different views so you can see what you feel is accurate. The truth is most of kink is tailored specific to each relationship and it’s needs. There is no one way approach.

Old guard, leather comminuties, and some basics like poses and formal reply sure. But the majority is all about what you two discuss, limit, likes, dislikes, expectations.

Lots will say they will “train” you and they really will just end up tasking you and gaslighting you into thinking that’s what makes a “good sub”.

I have replied to several posts with new comers here as well as “Doms” claiming all those pretty buzzwords like master training and such. Might help taking a look over some of them.

Also some tips to help you filter out the garbage.
lots of guys are here for an easy fap session so be cautious here are some red flags to clue you in:
-immediate friend requests with no convo or detailed messages.
-demanding you submit to them
-requesting or demanding pics
-automatically assuming you're under their ownership and treating you as such
-using titles they haven’t earned the right to, (calling you sub slut slave princess etc. or referring to themselves as daddy sir master etc.)
-requesting specific personal info
-saying you’re not a real sub if….( insert something you didn’t do that they wanted)
-those not willing to put time in to getting to know you
-vague answers to specific questions or deflecting the convo when you ask above their experience.
most are just seeking a naive girl they hope to scoop up use and discard.
youll be able to see patterns as your inbox floods. the ignore button will be your best friend. Happy kinking

 

[Devildom1994]

Hello!! Good to see that you're really interested in being the submissive. However, it'd be really difficult for someone to "train" you to the best submissive. I get the sentiment behind the words. But like people suggested above, you have to know what suits you the best. Try to have a picture of things that you like and want to explore. And have a clear picture of what you don't want to experience. Set this straight with whoever you talk to.

Adding to this, know about the safety of what you do and make sure the partner knows about it as well. Whatever you do, even if you enjoy, it's important to know the safety issues and measures to take. Also read as much as you can. There are a lot of fetishes and kinks with tons of ideas in each. Get to know about it all.

Another thing I'd like to mention to you and to all the people out there is, submission is not a given if you've identified as a submissive. It's the power and right of the submissive to choose if and when to submit. It'd be great for you if you understand and learn that before you start your journey.

And one final thing. There's hardly any hard and fast rules for bdsm. It's what you make of it. There are some basic protocols which gives it the structure like consent. Other than that, the rest is what you make of it. From what, when and with whom to how, why and why not.... There's no fixed answer to these. It's what you make of it.
Good luck and have fun.




Devil