Introducing my wife to Kink

Closer22

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I'm sure I'm the 100th person to ask this question. I won't go into a huge background story. Cliff notes: married 15 years. I'm 35. She was abused for almost a year by her moms boyfriend at the age of 12. I played the nice guy for about 3 years of dating and 10 years of marriage before I really made a huge stink about our lack of a sexual relationship that had any semblance of being satisfying. I have a very high sex drive and I'm a kinky guy. Most of you would consider me tame sure. :) We were also both very religious and she still is. I went through a phase when I gave up on religion and also on my marriage and got really selfish. But I found myself. And I learned to be ok with who I am and have even found a bit of religion again that now makes sense. Most importantly I have discovered this newfound freedom called honesty. Who would have thought it? The truth shall set you free! Unfortunately, it may be at the expense of my poor wife who now has to deal with bouts of confession time almost once a week when she learns something new about me. Last week it was telling her that I would prefer an open relationship. It was hard but I held firm and didn't turn back into mr nice guy. I simply said she had misconceptions about what it was based on media and religious bias. I also told her it was my desire, but my commitment to her was more important than my desire. One of my kinks is swapping, gangbangs, threesomes, etc. and I am NOT the jealous type. If she told me she won't be happy unless we introduce others into the bedroom or even full on relationships then I'd do whatever to make her happy. But as for bedroom kink in general she really has a hard time even talking about vanilla sex out loud. But I fear one of these days while we are having sex I'm going to lose it, pin her to the ground, slap her around, fist her pussy, while she chokes on my cock and my balls are smacking her pretty little face. LMAO There is a Lion inside me who has been trapped in a cage for far too long!!

So this is my thought. I once gave her a book about how to please your spouse in the bedroom after telling her how important our sex life was to me. She never cracked the cover. It became a contentious thing because I had cracked all sorts of books about relationships that she wanted me to. Anyways, I think she would be down for rougher sex. She seems to get more turned on when I get a little rougher and harder. I honestly think if I could get her to see that it wasn't wrong and it was an amazing act of love and she could set limits and trust me to take care of her, etc. I'd like to start with a book. Something that I can give her and say, remember when I said I had kinky thoughts that you never seem to want to talk about. Will you just read this and let me know what you think? Or we can read it together. But this is what I am into. Something that really explains submission and the beauty. I think it could be the trick to making my marriage work. Rebuilding that trust and at the same time help my wife finally understand me a little better. Videos would be nice too. She doesn't watch porn so maybe something softcore or a movie that is more geared towards women. She is religiously against porn. But I am not and watch it a couple times a week. Love this website!!
 

firemaster

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To start with you will have this end on either a Friday. You will start normal, each day you will wear 1 less item of cloth. Socks are 1 and shoes are 1. You will do this for 6 days. If you so choose to wear a dress on the last day it is not to be no longer than 3” below crotch. Take daily pics in a teasing pose and give to your husband. Come home every day and let him fuck you however he so choses.
 

shadowice0823

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If shes against porn, that might make things a little difficult to introduce her to the idea. I dont know if you 2 still have kids in the house but you could try leaving the laptop/computer open to sex stories or bookmarking them with stuff you would like to try. Maybe she will read them, and think wow that sounds like something id love to try and my husband must enjoy this sort of thing to be reading it. If you cant even get her to talk about vanilla sex you will have a hard time convincing her any other way then letting her believe its her idea.


To start with you will have this end on either a Friday. You will start normal, each day you will wear 1 less item of cloth. Socks are 1 and shoes are 1. You will do this for 6 days. If you so choose to wear a dress on the last day it is not to be no longer than 3” below crotch. Take daily pics in a teasing pose and give to your husband. Come home every day and let him fuck you however he so choses.
couldnt you just type tl:dr then include your an idiot for not realizing its a guy posting this and not his wife before you ask for photos? Go look on the internet if you want pictures theres stuff all over
 

Closer22

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That's a decent idea. Only problem I have is that I'm done giving subtle hints and innuendo. I want to tell her, this is what I'm into. I've been this way for as long as I can remember. It's a part of who I am. And I've learned to accept it. And it doesn't make me a bad person. It doesn't make me love you any less. It doesn't mean you ever have to do anything your not comfortable with. But I would like to see you stretch yourself a little bit and try some of it and see if you enjoy it. And then I want to hand her a book and say, read this. It will tell you all you need to know about it and will help you overcome a lot of the misconceptions you may have about it.
 

CassAhhDee

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You say you played the nice guy- so she didn't know at the start your sexual interests? I have to say I think that in itself could be a tough hurdle to jump. I mean this- if this is not something that developed over time but was in fact part of you as long as you can remember, it wasn't really fair to her starting the relationship on a false note, if that makes sense. Not that I'm not on your side, just sharing a different perspective to consider.
 

firemaster

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If shes against porn, that might make things a little difficult to introduce her to the idea. I dont know if you 2 still have kids in the house but you could try leaving the laptop/computer open to sex stories or bookmarking them with stuff you would like to try. Maybe she will read them, and think wow that sounds like something id love to try and my husband must enjoy this sort of thing to be reading it. If you cant even get her to talk about vanilla sex you will have a hard time convincing her any other way then letting her believe its her idea.



couldnt you just type tl:dr then include your an idiot for not realizing its a guy posting this and not his wife before you ask for photos? Go look on the internet if you want pictures theres stuff all over
shut up stupid.