Still looking for the right dominant m/f

Sexuality
Straight
Gender
Male
Orientation
Submissive
Region
Western Europe
Age
30
Kinks
Ballbusting, cbt, sounding, orgasm control/denial, chastity, (hidden) public, bondage, pain, humiliation, degradation and so much more.
Limits
Scat, blackmail, social suicide and anything that will get me in trouble with the law.

Dutchbuster

Kinky Newbie
  • Straight
  • Male
  • Submissive
Mar 31, 2015
17
2
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Hello,

First Inwant to start with, this message is written as “looking for a mistress” but as it seems so hard to find someone serious, I am also open to meeting a man who’s interest is sparked after reading this ad.

Ingaf a lot of responses to previous ads but infortunately I did not meet someone tight yet. Most people just start with “ Send me a nude”, if I get that, I’m out and will block you.

I want to start by thanking you for taking the time to read my ad. It’s going to be a serious, long one. So if you are not looking for something serious, it might not be worth the time reading.

I'll start by talking a little bit about myself.
I am a 31 year old Dutch guy. I have been into the lifestyle for well over a decade now. The reason I am back on kinktalk is that my d/s relationship ended because our life’s and schedules made it hard and she lost interest in being a domme.

I tried to go “unowned” but I am not enjoying myself. Before it ended, it has been at least a year since I had a full orgasm. They were all denied or ruined. I admire women who think men shouldn’t cum or enjoy their orgasm. Now that I have been alone for a while, I stick with edging, but I go over the edge after a while and just have a full orgasm, which makes me feel bad and disappointed instantly. I miss being edged into oblivion,the motivation and desire not to cum, to keep my balls full no matter how horny I am just because I don’t want to disappoint my
Mistress.

Over the years I explored a lot of different things and found out a lot about myself.
I have a full time job at an International company and enjoy life to the fullest. My friends and family are important to me and I try to have a good time every minute.

Now, what do I hope to get out of this?
I hope to find a Miss that is serious about owning someone and buidling a (online) relation. As a Mistress you should know what you want and what you expect out of me. Be strict, harsh and sadistic, I have a weakness for women who enjoy making a man suffer. But I would also like to be friends. Be able to talk like equals when we are talking about day to day life or other interesting subjects.

Regular contact; I like to be checked upon or receive new tasks on a regular basis. I understand that we both have our own social and private lifes and it might not be possible for you to have daily contact. But I'd like to meet someone who is able to communicate with me regulary.

What do I mean by "being owned"?
As said earlier I like someone to really own me. See me as your property and use me for whatever you want up to a point where we both feel comfortable with. Set daily rules and tasks, control me (like if I shave or not, if I can cum or not, if I wear boxers or go commando etc. etc.). Treat me like I am your possession and I have nothing to say about what is happening. I hope that you understand what I mean.

What am I into?
I enjoy the feeling of being less of a human than my Mistress, just because I am a man. So I enjoy women that agree that the female sex is superior to male. Soft humilation is nice, but I am also open for extremer forms of degradation and dehumanization.

I like it when someone else is in control of my orgasms.
This is one of the most powerful ways for me to feel super submissive towards a women. Not having the control over your own pleasure and frustration. Ruined orgasms, really long edging sessions or denial are things that I really enjoy. Even extreme, very long term denial.

Control. I am looking for the real thing, not something for "every now and then". What I hope to find is a Mistress that is demanding and wants actuall control. As close to 24/7 as it can get in an online relation. Keeping in mind that I do not want to effect your, nor my social life. I am open to shedules and daily tasks and willing to send daily reports about how the day went.

Pain. Over the years I developed a thing for being in pain for someone else’s pleasure. I would like to meet someone who’s has a major thing for making a man suffer. Ballbusting and cbt are things I enjoy and would really like to work on and develop. Not just light slaps and flicks, someone who goes hard on them. Wants to train towards a point where we can go brutal on them. I am fully aware that there are risks involved but I am not worried about fertility (no desire to have kids), or a bit of trauma. I know this is not everyone’s cup of tea, but I hope there’s someone sadistic out there who really gets off on hurting balls.

As mentioned before I would like you to have somewhat of a sadistic mind. It is a huge turn on for me when you like to make me suffer. Not because I enjoy being in pain; but the thought of you letting me be in pain, not only for punishment but just because you enjoy it, gets me to a reall humble and submissive state of mind. I like to feel and be in a submissive state of mind all day. Seeing and feeling that you are my I am not sure if I am able to take extreme pain from the beginning. But I am really motivated to train to take as much pain as needed.

Anal is something that I do not mind doing, but it's not one of my favorite things. But as you probably already noticed; it's all about the state of mind. I will do and love anal if you make me do it. Just because you tell me to. It is not the "fucking my ass" which I enjoy, I like challanges and goals set by you. Stretch my hole wider and wider until we reached the gape you want, or making thing disappear inside me just because you enjoy the view of it. I have to be honest though, daily anal or even several times a week is something that puts me off a little. So anal is fine if you want it, but I would prefer meeting someone who is not into anal at all or only demands it every now and then.

Deepthroat is something I would like to train on. It is not that I like sucking something, but I would like to be able to do it so I will be able to serve you in as many ways as possible.

I enjoy hidden public / mild exposure. I am not looking to commit social suicide or get in trouble in another way, but I like the idea of my Mistress forcing me to do tasks outside on a hidden or risky place.

And I always enjoy trying new things. I am very open minded and willing to try almost anything. As long as it does not concern scat, permanent damage or illegal things.

I have several toys and I can use / buy household items that are required to serve you properly. I also don't mind to buy new toys if things do get serious and we can get along.

What can you expect of me?
I am very loyal and only looking for one Mistress.
You can expect commitment, dedication, honesty and fun.
My mind is set on serving a women and I don't care about my own pleasure, so I will do anything I can to make sure I will keep you satisfied. And I am always willing to push myself to get myself to a higher level and be your perfect possession.

Contact
I will adjust to your ways of contacting.
At the moment I have skype, kik and e-mail.
Skype was used for sessions, kik for contact throughout the day and mail for my daily reports, but like I said; I will adjust to your standards.
I have a webcam, microphone and smartphone with camera to make pics/videos throughout the day.
Preferred method of contact is kik though.

Let's finish
First of all I would like to thank you for your time, reading my ad.
Please do not reply if you are not sure if this is what you are into, I don't like to waste time on people that are a joke. Your age and looks are not important to me. It's all about the intention and what you want to get out of this.

My limits: scat, permanent damage and anything illegal.

Things I tried before and that I know I don't mind doing: Anal, bondage, cbt, ballbusting, pain, sounding, orgasm control/denial, hidden public, online exposure (no face), chasity (Ihave a chasity device), spanking, humiliation/degradation and I probably forgot a couple of things. I hope that this list will get longer and longer as time passes by.

Again, thank you for reading and I hope to hear from you soon.

If you are still awake after reading all of this and you want to know more or talk a bit, please send me a message!
 

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