'Success' with D/S relationships ?

Would you consider overall D/S experiences a success ?

  • Yes

    Votes: 1 33.3%
  • No

    Votes: 2 66.7%

  • Total voters
    3

Randy Magnum

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I'm interested to know if many people on here consider their D/S relationship experience a success.

From my personal experiences the bad experiences definitely out weigh the good ones so I would consider the experience overall - not a success.

Weirdly when I started off on this site I met a female sub straight away and had a really good online relationship with her for years. I'm not sure if things were easier or if I just got really lucky now !

I had a few other good online relationships after that too, but they seem very few and far between now and its becoming more difficult to find female subs it seems.
 

subzzzero

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I'm interested to know if many people on here consider their D/S relationship experience a success.

From my personal experiences the bad experiences definitely out weigh the good ones so I would consider the experience overall - not a success.

Weirdly when I started off on this site I met a female sub straight away and had a really good online relationship with her for years. I'm not sure if things were easier or if I just got really lucky now !

I had a few other good online relationships after that too, but they seem very few and far between now and its becoming more difficult to find female subs it seems.
Here’s some numbers. With regards to this site and online only dynamics.
I’ve been 8-10yrs on this site.
-zero local dynamics from here
-15ish dynamics lasting between 6 months to a year or more.
-30-50 short term play partners
More than half of both groups above came to me and initiated the conversation based on my history or a comment that drew their attention.

Other site
15yrs similar numbers.
Add in 6 locals that started online


Now the indirect numbers are what also adds up. Finding a messenger kink group on this and other sites leads to long term group participation and in turn I also found people in those groups. No accurate count

Locally via munches and meets
10 long term dynamics
15-20 play partners
Too many topping scenes to count at dungeons and meets.

Now those all seem ok if you’re seeking out just the success.
I’d estimate 500-1000 overall contacts that didn’t work out. Or didn’t get past the initial convo. Didn’t get a reply to a reach out. Or was ghosted deleted closed account etc.

So both High end numbers 40 success out of 1000 chances.

Now that being said. Weeding through the pay for play, onlyfans, and attention seeker post and ghost takes a skill to see those patterns. Thirsty dudes chasing those types is why they still exist on the kink sites.

Here are links to two threads with similar info.

https://www.kinktalk.com/talk/threads/what-are-your-thoughts-on-fetlife.55700/


Also keep in mind. Dude to female ratio is massive. And all the “shitty fake fantasy porn is real doms” spam all the ladies it drives many away being flooded as soon as they join or make a post or comment. It’s like meat for the wolves.
 

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