Hoping this is the right place, but I was wondering if anyone else had come across or had a similar 'problem'.
Both myself and my other half play, I always thought I was a sub but in recent years have realised that I'm more of a switch. Now my other half has always said that he is a sub, and won't accept that he might be anything else. He's said he wants me to be his Mistress and I want to be too.
However, what I'm finding is that I don't think he is a sub. I know he hasn't had much experience so there is may be a bit of that involved so I don't want to push him too much and scare him.
Now whenever we have talked, discussed or played, he seems to be happy for me to be his Mistress but I've noticed that it is only with things he is interested in, anything else he doesn't want to know, and most of the time it's things where I do things to him. (I think if he could just lie there he would!!!)
However the other night when we were playing he starts saying things like he's the boss, I'm to do as he says, even to the point of saying he's my Master!!! But again, it is mainly him telling/ordering me to do things to him. We have talked in the past and when we first got together I did say that I had a submissive side but subsequently have told him I'm more of a switch.
He's said he'd like to try certain things and he's got the equipment to do it, so as we went away for a weekend as a surprise I took the equipment with me but he didn't want to, so we didn't.
But then if I ask him if he's more a switch, he'll reply no he's a sub.
So anyone had any dealings, advice etc for someone who is trying to be a Domme to someone who is adamant that they are a sub but seems to be anything but a sub?
Thanks in advance.
Both myself and my other half play, I always thought I was a sub but in recent years have realised that I'm more of a switch. Now my other half has always said that he is a sub, and won't accept that he might be anything else. He's said he wants me to be his Mistress and I want to be too.
However, what I'm finding is that I don't think he is a sub. I know he hasn't had much experience so there is may be a bit of that involved so I don't want to push him too much and scare him.
Now whenever we have talked, discussed or played, he seems to be happy for me to be his Mistress but I've noticed that it is only with things he is interested in, anything else he doesn't want to know, and most of the time it's things where I do things to him. (I think if he could just lie there he would!!!)
However the other night when we were playing he starts saying things like he's the boss, I'm to do as he says, even to the point of saying he's my Master!!! But again, it is mainly him telling/ordering me to do things to him. We have talked in the past and when we first got together I did say that I had a submissive side but subsequently have told him I'm more of a switch.
He's said he'd like to try certain things and he's got the equipment to do it, so as we went away for a weekend as a surprise I took the equipment with me but he didn't want to, so we didn't.
But then if I ask him if he's more a switch, he'll reply no he's a sub.
So anyone had any dealings, advice etc for someone who is trying to be a Domme to someone who is adamant that they are a sub but seems to be anything but a sub?
Thanks in advance.