Before I begin, I am completely new to all of this. My husband has recently reviled his secret fantasy of bdsm. From looking at some porn, and doing some research, there are a lot of things I know I could be OK with, and some that scare me. My question is this, how does someone as a submissive get in the mindset of letting go of total control? We have discussed safe words, etc. but I want to figure out how to get out of my own mind as far as panicking when being tied down, and unable to move. What helps you calm your mind, to be able to gain full pleasure from it all? Any and all suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
