Hello everyone,
I'm new to this forum and BDSM in general, please feel free to move or even delete this if I put it in the wrong spot or did it wrong.
I guess I'm just reaching out to other people in the community who will understand me, I feel so judged by society, and by friends and family, and it almost makes me hate myself. Having a deviancy that is described by textbooks I read in my courses as a sexual disorder makes it even harder. I know I didn't choose to be the way I am, I believe I was either born as a submissive or grew up to become one unintentionally. And as much as it is something I would love to openly embrace about myself, despite of the causes, this isn't something I would want to "fix", it's who I am, a repressed part of me, so much so that I really just end up hating myself. Guys I date think I'm a freak when they find out or I end up being extremely unfulfilled sexually, and guys who are involved in the lifestyle find me to be disobedient and new to the world of BDSM. I just don't feel good enough either way. I don't know if these are common feelings to have, so I thought I would come to people who know far more.
I'm new to this forum and BDSM in general, please feel free to move or even delete this if I put it in the wrong spot or did it wrong.
I guess I'm just reaching out to other people in the community who will understand me, I feel so judged by society, and by friends and family, and it almost makes me hate myself. Having a deviancy that is described by textbooks I read in my courses as a sexual disorder makes it even harder. I know I didn't choose to be the way I am, I believe I was either born as a submissive or grew up to become one unintentionally. And as much as it is something I would love to openly embrace about myself, despite of the causes, this isn't something I would want to "fix", it's who I am, a repressed part of me, so much so that I really just end up hating myself. Guys I date think I'm a freak when they find out or I end up being extremely unfulfilled sexually, and guys who are involved in the lifestyle find me to be disobedient and new to the world of BDSM. I just don't feel good enough either way. I don't know if these are common feelings to have, so I thought I would come to people who know far more.