(Cont,) so when the sub/slave looks at you, which one do you think they want to see, somebody that is human, or the weakness. Think about it.
Ok, guess we start at the very basics with control. The first one is speech, on both, how the sub/slave and D/M speaks.
The first thing in training should be teaching your sub/slave (Going to use s/s from now on, and D/M for Dom and Master or Mistress) to speak correctly.
s/s should never use "I" or "no" or "okay" or "me". When speaking the "I" should be slave or sub, for example. If I have Master permission I would like to go for a drive. It should be "If slave has Master permission, slave would like to go for a drive." Another example, "I am doing laundry now Master is there anything you would like me too do?" Correct way, "slave is doing laundry now Master, is there anything you would like slave to do?"
Oh, for the Mistress out there reading, more than likely your'll run into this, it's rare for a Master to have one, but a "object", would address themselves as "It"
Ok, now I know some of you are going what is a object. A object is a person who has taken submission to the deepest level, and don't identified as a human anymore, but as a piece of furniture, or as a ashtray holder, either in it's mouth, or it's asshole. Isn't that cool, wants you to take up smoking.
Moving on, s/s never say no, because that is a "direct" confrontation with the D/M, they are aloud to disagree, BUT, they need to word it differently, and in a positive way. But the D/M has the final say, and if the D/M is smart, and listens to the s/s concern, and take that into consideration, before they make a call. Also it would be smart on the D/M part to repeat back parts of the s/s concern so they know they were heard, and tell them how to came to your final decision.
For example, you come home, and you walk in the door and is greeting by your s/s. You say, girl get your dress on, were are going out tonight to eat. Her reply is; No, you promised me tonight we would go out and pick up my new iphone. Ok, that's a hang em high, and hmm, I haven't used my number 9 scourge in a while.
Now the correct way, in the door you go, girl get your dress out, we are going out to dinner. Her response, Wow, that sound yummy, but slave was looking forward to picking up her new iphone today. You respond, I understand about the iphone, but the dinner is a surprise birthday party for your slave friend Sandy. We can pick up your phone any time, but her birthday only comes once a year, and I'm sure she would be heart broken if you don't show up.
Next the word Okay, this is simple, s/s should use, yes sir or mam. Simple right? Wrong. This word here I would have to say is the most punished word that will come out of your s/s mouth. Its a hard one to correct.
Now next post, words the D/M need to change and how to speak, and how all this works control wise.
If your looking for a punishment to correct your s/s on this training. I use 10 slaps to the back of the hand. If your texting, ask for photo proof ever once in a while that punishment has been carried out. The "I" takes about a week for them to learn it, and the "ok" is going to haunt you