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Toker420.bbw

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I'm 100% new to kink. I haven't even mentioned it to my partner because I'd like to educate myself as much as possible before I test the water. Anyone out there want to take on mentoring me? I have kik, Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram (barely used).
 
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droptokon

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Hi there and welcome to Kink Talk.

I'd recommend you spend some time reading through our forums to get a feel for things, there are many good primers here (often stickies) that will lead you through much of the basics.
Be cautious about who you listen to with regards to mentoring as there are plenty of self proclaimed experts who will lead you astray. I'd suggest doing some research on anyone who approaches you by reading their profile info and posts. This will give you an idea of their experience level as well as interests to gauge compatibility.

It can also be very helpful to post specific questions here as you will then get a much wider range of views rather than a single perspective.
 

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One thing to be mindful of is a mentor is not someone who trains you or does any play with you. They are there to ask questions and share past experiences. If someone says “let me mentor you send nudes” they just assume they can get things from you because you are new.

Personally I would do my own research here and other kink sites. Googling as needed. And then take what others say with a grain of salt. As everyone is different.
 

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the best i suggest is to read the posts of people before asking any perticular one to train you.
read the tasks and try to do the once you can easily do. see if you like the feelings towards the tasks.
for ex. see if you like tasks including pain or humiliation or degredation,
you can also ask someone to keep you doing that task if you feel like you would cheat out before the task is done.
like being a human furniture or corner time, or being a hucow. or having to clamp nipples etc.
 
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Hi,

I would also say do not give your personal info out on here. Dont engage with anyone over Facebook or Instagram. If you want to chat do it on here or at a push kik. If you're going to also share pics also be careful. Unfortunately many newbies trust the first people to message, share something they think is safe only to find that the person posts it online or try some blackmail stuff with your pics / info when you want to stop talking or playing with them.

Feel free to message me if you have any questions or if I can help you with anything.
 

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I'm 100% new to kink. I haven't even mentioned it to my partner because I'd like to educate myself as much as possible before I test the water. Anyone out there want to take on mentoring me? I have kik, Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram (barely used).
Hi there
 

Toker420.bbw

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One thing to be mindful of is a mentor is not someone who trains you or does any play with you. They are there to ask questions and share past experiences. If someone says “let me mentor you send nudes” they just assume they can get things from you because you are new.

Personally I would do my own research here and other kink sites. Googling as needed. And then take what others say with a grain of salt. As everyone is different.
Thats exactly what im looking for. Someone who i can talk to and ask questions and not someone to engage in play.
 
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poetrylover828

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Thats exactly what im looking for. Someone who i can talk to and ask questions and not someone to engage in play.
Since you seem to want a mentor I would suggest finding someone who has a similar role and possibly gender as you. If I were to look I would want a woman who was submissive as my mentor.

It says you are a switch so you might benefit from having two mentors as well. One sub and one dom. But definitely keep reading while you look for a mentor. It might take a bit to find a mentor.
 
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Miss Purrfect

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If you wanted to test the water with your partner hopefully this may help.

When I first started to get into kink with my boyfriend at the time. We were both 17 and didn't really know where to start. We didn't even really know we were into Kink tbh just wanted to try out a few different things in the bedroom.

The easiest way we found to start was to play a game where the loser had to do a forfeit. The game could have been cards or board game it didn't really matter, but it was a simple way where the winner could get an idea out of our heads and into the bedroom to explore. Doing this also avoided it feeling weird to discuss what we were into. As back then I couldn't imagine coming home with rope, ballgag and paddle like "Can we try this tonight ?!" Haha.

The forfeits started off pretty Vanilla at first such as the loser was blindfolded or tied up, over time we both found what worked for us and we then didn't need a game or forfeit to have the kinky sex it just naturally became part of Sex.

Hope that helps somewhat 😊
 

Toker420.bbw

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I appreciate everyone helping. I may just not be in the right place on here but I mostly see personals for hire and whatnot.
 

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