Hi there! Glad you could take me up on my offer of questions
Orgasms is a funny thing. Embarrisingly, I've not had much chance to experiment with this body yet, in part due to physical complications after the op.
I've always believed the orgasm is more to do with the mind than the body. Others have quickly disagreed and pointed out all the delights of how their body feels and so on, but that is never quite what I mean. What I mean is the process for orgasm is in the mind. For me the images which flash through at the time of orgasm, that pure feeling of euphoria and freedom where all the shoulds and oughts go out of the window is what makes it work.
Thus the buildup for orgasm is for me about sexual freedom (although of course I behave ethically always). I also love to feel pushed and I fantasise about the impossible.
So, what has this got to do with the question of how I experience orgasm now I have had my op compared to before. Well, the point is, the part in my head hasn't changed. The process and building up all works the same way. My body even shakes the same way when I'm on the point, although when I had my first in this body, I felt my body physically knocking the sensation was so strong.
The main difference now for me is that when I have my orgasm I can go with it. Before I was having to translate in my mind the differences between a male orgasm and turn it back into a female one so my mind-state could be happy; like someone talking french at you and understanding the words, but not understanding the meaning until translated into English. Now, I simply feel good, then relax.
The few times I have engaged in physical play, I feel much happier and more confident with my physical female being. I am less concerned and more open about being naked (being naked in a cage a few months after my op was an example of this) and I didn't try for a more feminine posture through hiding my penis. Simliarly, when I touch another, I have no penis to get in the way, and again my mind doesn't have to do the work of trying to negociate a male body around another but in a female way.
I hope this answers your question. Please - if you have any more (anyone) I would be more than happy to answer.
Blessings
Sophie
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