Humsub

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Hi everyone,

I wanted to know more about your experiences with being exposed and consensual blackmail play… I’ve started getting more and more into it specially because there’s a huge adrenaline rush but I know it can be dangerous.
I’ve only sent really compromising stuff to one dom, whom I maintain a relation regularly and also talk about random stuff when we are not horny as well so I feel like I can trust him but I still feel nervous sometimes
He has never blackmailed and repeatedly says he’ll only publish or expose if I ask him to.

Do you have any tips on how to live out this extreme kinks as safely as possible or do you have any experiences to share?

Sometimes when he’s not available I feel like going on Kik groups but they usually require verifications with completely nude face and videos that get shared inside the group and are supposed to stay there but I never go through with it since there’s no time to build that trust relation. Have you ever done it or know of safe groups?
 

droptokon

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This is an interesting topic and your experience brings out many of the problems of this kind of activity. It's also a good reminder of why Kink Talk banned the practice on site as simply being too problematic to handle for us legally and morally.

At the core however is the consent issue which a lot of people still don't seem to understand fully. A good starting point is to read this post I did covering all the issues.
For those who struggle with more than a dozen words though the upshot is simple, consent is never enduring and can be withdrawn at any time.

Unfortunately this doesn't help you much though if your photos are "in the wild", that is circulating on image hosting sites etc. Digital photos persist, even if they are posted for 5 minutes you will never know who saw them and downloaded them.
However for the exposers, just keep in mind that if your victim, however willing at the time changes their mind you can be held responsible and in many jurisdictions prosecuted and be facing fines or even jail time.
 
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Humsub

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This is an interesting topic and your experience brings out many of the problems of this kind of activity. It's also a good reminder of why Kink Talk banned the practice on site as simply being too problematic to handle for us legally and morally.

At the core however is the consent issue which a lot of people still don't seem to understand fully. A good starting point is to read this post I did covering all the issues.
For those who struggle with more than a dozen words though the upshot is simple, consent is never enduring and can be withdrawn at any time.

Unfortunately this doesn't help you much though if your photos are "in the wild", that is circulating on image hosting sites etc. Digital photos persist, even if they are posted for 5 minutes you will never know who saw them and downloaded them.
However for the exposers, just keep in mind that if your victim, however willing at the time changes their mind you can be held responsible and in many jurisdictions prosecuted and be facing fines or even jail time.
Hey! Thank you so much for linking your post here! It was a really good read and helped me to remember to slow down, play with people I’ve come to know and trust. It also really reassured me to know that many of the key points about consent and trust were already in place in my case :)
I’d still love to hear from others experiences about online play :)
 

Alansub

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Well, i am not sure about consent that could be withdraw. If you are at the master side, consider it, but if you are at the sub side, if you consent permanently, consider it permanently, even you try to change what you said.
If i could suggest something, never show your face and name, and take care with datas that go with pics.
 

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